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writes:Me and my ex have been on and off for the last 4 years.Everytime we get into a serious arguement he desides he doesnt want the rship and breaks it of. I have never broke up with him. I just guessed it was commintment issuses.Hes a very stubborn guy, and when hes angry theres no talking to him. I love him so much but the fact that somethings i try tell him how i feel and hes not senstive to understand that hes hurting me, kills and he mistakes me telling him how i feel with moanning.I went on hoilday, then he also did, and then we was both busy. and he resently lost his job. and because we hadnt even each other in a while he decided to have a romantaic night, a meal and a walk near the river. We got into the dumbest fight and he ended it and went to the pub.Like always i begged him and even when to his house. It was killing me that we always does this to me.So we broke up a month ago, and it took him 3 weeks to tell me that its over, about how we always get back together but its not happening and how he doesnt love me, and how i have changed and no longer the girl he fell in love with. He apologised for hurting me and said its a dead end rship, that we dont get on and arguement was a big factor. I was heartbroken.He asked if we could be friends but i snapped bcause i was in pain and said no delete my number. He texted back ok, i hope your find the guy you want and hope he treats you right, you deserve it bye. And i havent heard from him since.Its so confusing how he changed his feelings about me so quickly like i know we didnt c each other much the month we spilt but he was telling me how he want kids and a marriage with me and how breaking up would break his heart.Hes always been friend crazy and i have never had a prob with it. He always wants to hang with friends. He said hes happier without me and doesnt have to do nothing for anyone hes happy being single.I so confused cause hes prefect bf. but when he get angry hes different, calling me names and stuff. And its hurts. I have tried to get over him but my heart is still telling me that i am crazy about him.THis guy doesnt show emotions, he ingores me when i bump into him and acts like he doesnt know me. Hes such a sweet guy if he controlled his anger issues.Everyone thinks i should move on, but we was planning a furture together its soooo hard. any advice? thanks people x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Move on fine someone new get away from him u live with a pain if u don't ! I should know I was in love with a guy who had anger issues and it got real bad so move on...
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 There is no "He's the perfect boyfriend except when he does..."
That IS him. That is who he is. He has anger issues and that is a part of his personality. I've seen this many times, women who focus on the good times and making excuses for the bad times. I guarantee if you keep getting back together with him you will be in an endless cycle of good times, arguments, and being broken up. It will never change no matter what he says.
Is that what you want your life to be like forever? Move on. You deserve better.
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