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writes:Should I sleep with a prostitute?Well I’m new to this site and thought it might be able to help me with my problem: you see I’m 23 and still a virgin. The thing is, I don’t mind that so much because I’ve always valued my virginity and sex as something special; that when you meet someone, you should get to know them first, develop feelings for them and then have sex with them when it means something. I’m not religious or anything like that, this is just the way I’ve always felt about sex and relationships. The trouble is, all I’ve seen recently is guys posting problems about their partners and how they’ve had sex with so many people.So having said that, I can understand that it might seem a bit strange me wanting to lose my virginity to a prostitute, but the thought of me having sex for the first time with someone I care about that’s had sex with so many other people would break my heart, and then I wouldn‘t be able to continue with the relationship. So I figure that if I sleep with prostitutes or even hook up with some drunk randoms I wont care about sex in this way anymore and it wouldn’t bother me so much that any partners have a promiscuous past because I’ll have one too. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): Definitely go sleep with a prostitute. I did, it was the best.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (19 August 2009):
 i would say not to get a prostitute because of stdssssssss. Women lie alot so when they tell you about there sexual take it with a grain of salt. as for your problem i think that a psychological issue just because your grl had 100 diffrent guys shouldnt mean you need to have to it means your better then those guys cause she didn't stick with them. if you truly love a girl this shouldnt bother you
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): I'm 20 and still a virgin.. you shouldnt throw it away! Save it for someone you love
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): I see all these answers saying "just find a decent girl and you can share something special with her!" That sounds nice for the lucky girl but it does nothing to actually help this guy with his problem.
He isn't complaining that he can't find a girlfriend. He is complaining that he doesn't want to end up trying to accept a GF with a sexual past when he doesn't have a sexual past himself.
Here's the truth: Having something special with a new girl will do zero to help him with that issue.
He needs a fellow virgin girlfriend for a good relationship. Nothing else, including a prostitute, will help.
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reader, Rose425 +, writes (15 August 2009):
It seems to me you don't think you would find someone who would appreciate you for not having a sexual past, which I can tell you it's not true at all (I'm a virgin too). I can tell from my own experience that I'd do anything to find a guy who would actually have feelings for the person they sleep with (being their first partner or not) rather than just sleeping around with any girl that comes their way just to add a notch to their belt.
A girl who truly cares about you won't mind about you being a virgin or not. Also keep in mind that just because a girl might have had sex before doesn't make her any less worthy of love.
So don't doubt what the aunts here are telling you, there is a nice girl for you out there who will love you for who you are and not for your lack of sexual experience.
~ Rose
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Don't do it. I mean, why discard your values just to tick another box? When you meet a lovely girlfriend, she will respect and understand that you may need a few pointers (unless she's a virgin too) but that is a journey on which you will both go on. Save your love for a real woman rather than a cheap tart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): I lost my virginity to a prostitute.it didn't scar me for life or anything.it was just another experience. just be careful of STD,s.
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reader, sum4gvn +, writes (14 August 2009):
 First of all when you have high standards finding the right person can seem impossible. Most people have low standards which is why they find so many people willing to sleep with them. Keep your standards and your morals and when the right person comes along, one with as high standards as you, you'll be happy that she's not writing in about the perfect guy she found that's slept with so many people that she wonders if he's the right one. Anyone can pay for sex, big deal!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): Don't compromise your own values just to get even with a woman who could possibly have a promiscuous past who you might fall in love with who you haven't ever even met. Not every girl out there sleeps around. In this day and age, my personal belief is that it takes a lot more strength for a man to keep to his morals than for a woman to. This due to the growing pornography industry, the women who walk around with revealing outfits, the magazines and TV shows all littered head to toe with gorgeous half naked woman after another. If you, as a man, can resist all of that, then you will certainly find a woman who shares your veiws on sex and relationships. If you dont think you will be able to handle a promiscuous past, then find a woman without one. There is nothing wrong with that at all. My uncle spent his life living with his mom because she was ill. When she passed, he got on a dating site and found a woman who shared his veiws. They were both virgins and both in the forties. Having sex with a prostitute would be like sticking you dingdong in a bucket of disease, emotional complications and regret, and then losing 500 dollars. Stand up for what you believe in, even when others don't. ~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): This is a person who sleeps with a lot of people. There are risks involved. A builder is fine if he or she follows safety rules. It's the same with this industry. Make sure he or she is careful about safe practice. I suppose prostitutes are there for this when you don't want a relationship. It's no good using a girl for sex and dumping her. It's easy to not have a promiscuous past for a girl if she meets a male who has a good job and who is financially providing. And where his intentions were honest. Where he supports her advancement in career. And who is not violent. These men are considered catches. Hopefully he is not caught playing around later. Maybe she settled for less. If he is going no-where, then neither is she. And she is going no-where with settling for less. So when you meet the one, see where she wants to go. Is she too capable of being a catch or would she just be mucking around.
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reader, The_Girl_Least_Likely_To +, writes (14 August 2009):
NO. No no no no NO!!!!
You have a lovely attitude towards sex and relationships. When you meet the right girl she will feel lucky, special and very very respectful of you. How do you know that the first person you have sex with will have slept with loads of other people?? you can't see what's around the corner.
Don't throw your first time away on a prostitute. You will never forget your first experience and it will be so much better with someone you know and love regardless of their sexual past rather than with a prostitute.
Please, it's so nice to hear a man with that attitude towards sex, don't ruin it by becoming promiscuous, hold out for the right person, you will not regret it.
Take care
xx
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