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*storeyfire
writes:Hey guys.. i have a friend who i have hooked up with during the summer..we like each other and get on well together but until recently he did not want a relationship due to bad previous experineces..i really liked him though so i kept talking to him even though we are far away form each other now (about 150 miles during the week due to college but only an hour at weekends) anyways last wekk he came to my college town and spent 2 nights with me.. we were getting on verey well but i was reluctant to let him kiss me or anything bcos i didnt want to be friends with benefits. So i said this and alos"i want to be with u" and he started off saying "if we were to go out it would be so hard and a big committment and hard to see each other and i said ok if you dont want that i want you to be happy" then he said "i thought about it beofre, im just really wary of relationships" and i said "ok" and "i dont want to be with other people" he also said he didnt want that and after a few minutes said "we could give it a try, just day by day, week by week" i said great i love you" (ive already said this to him and earlier that day he had said in a teasing way "youre mad! tahts why i love you!"he also spent a good bit of money on me and bought me a perfume during the visit. So then we were both happy and he was calling me his girlfriend and getting on well. We have not had sex yet as im not ready for it. He said this was ok and when the time was right it will happena nd i assured him it would. But he was very quiet the next day and i was ill and we werent getting on as well as before so i asked him was he still happy with us going out? he said he was. but when he left the next day i texted himt o see if he got his bus and after a few texts he didnt text back. then we had added each other on facebook, his realtionship staus was left blank as was mine and i would never write in a relationship on facebook as it is much too early and just asking for tropuble but i would not write single after that.(even tho you are single till u are married!) but two days later he wrote his staus as single!!!! which i thought was really mean and possibly just looking for attention i dont know.. i saw him on chat a day later so i just said "hi" and we had like a stupid fun conversation for about an hour nothing serious so i didnt bring it up! but i want to know what to do!! i dont wnat to ring or text him right now beacuse he is back at college and repeating a year so i need to leave it till the weekend at least but i dont know how to ask or what to say.. i dont want to seem to bothered ..i mean our "relationship" has barely begun but what should i do?? it is my turn to visit him and i want to in a few weeks and he said to come and visit but i odnt know whats going on with him.. if he is doing this to hurt me or worry me then he deserves to be single waht will i do? what should my next step be and how can i do it looking dignified and nit bothered by his actions??
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reader, 5storeyfire +, writes (12 January 2010):
5storeyfire is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u ! Well i dont know bt i told him not to do it if he didnt want to but ya i think hes having doubts. But he was already distant when i said i wsnt ready 4 sex and he said he didnt think i was ready either. Either way im sure itl work out for the best.. Im good with or without him..thanks for ur answer!
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