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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I am confused and would be grateful for any inputs that you have. I am 29 and live in NYC although I come from a country originally pretty conservative. I am bisexual. Here is the problem. I am confused between two people. There is a young really beautiful girl who seems to really like me and makes every attempt to ask me out and has introduced me to her mother! Then there is this man who is 16 years older than me. He is one of the nicest man and we have great chemistry. However since we have a professional responsibility, he has not asked me out, however, when I push away, he makes every attempt to get closer. I am confused because everyone wants to know what my situation is. I really like the guy however I am scared he might never ask me out. I am scared that I might be alone and if I dont ask fast I would loose the girl as well. Please provide any inputs and give me some hard truth. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): Well first off you need to overcome your fear of being alone. Let's be realistic for a second. First, you are super young so there is no reason why you couldn't find someone else easily. Secondly, you live in nyc. That is the dating capital of the world, making your odds of meeting other suitors even eeeeasier. So you have absolutely nothing to fear when it comes to that. You have everything working in your favor to absolutely not be alone. Secondly, have you told this girl that you are bi? There are many implications that go with a man sleeping with other men and it is your responsibility to let this girl know. It is her right to know. Lastly, it sounds like you prefer to be dating the older guy but it is complicated because of work. Why don't you ask him out? No harm in that. If you like him, go for it. Sounds like you might have to make the first move though. And remember, they are not the only two people in a city populated with 9 million people. There are plenty of people in the city down for dating. So if all else fails keep looking. It won't be that hard.
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