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writes:Heres the deal. I am completely, irrecovably in love with my football coach (I'm a girl from england.) He is just over 16 years older than me and married with 3 kids, with a son not far off my age. He had kids young.The thing is I cant stop thinking about him, hes the last thing i think about at night and the first thing i think about in the morning, and my whole week builds up to the training session and match. Hes one of the only people Ive met that i completely trust with anything and aswell as loving him i admire him too. I lay awake thinking about him sometimes because he just seems too perfect.We talk to eachother every day for hours at a time, (once we even stayed up all night talking to eachother) and he trusts me with anything and everything, and vice versa. We share private jokes and he tries to make me laugh all the time. He succeeds. lol. When i was meant to be going away for the weekend he drove 2 hours down to where i was on the sunday morning just so i could be there for the match. The two hours going back up, we just talked non stop about everything, it was amazing. When we see each other we always connect and i just know it's love. I know a lot of people say this but i know its love because although i dream about him telling me he loved me, i care to much about him (and his oldest son who i adore) to ever do anything about it. I just want him to be happy no matter what. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits not on the phone, its on facebook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Hun its just a crush, although him staying up all night on the phone to you sounds a bit odd.. a sensible adult wouldnt do that to a 15 year old. What about his eldest son? If hes your age then maybe thats more likely.Good luck! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Ok, this probably isn't what you are foing to want to hear but, it's just a crush. Seriously. I can see why you think it would be more, you seem to get on really well which is great, but it's a crush. Telling him or acting on this would be the worst thing to do, he's married with kids and at most probably just see's you as a friend.
If you did tell him or act on it not only could that make things awkward between you two, but it could wreck his marriage and lose him his coaching job. It's so much better if you do nothing!
Trust me in time it will pass, it may take a while, but it will :)
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reader, elizabeth12  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Ehm, i think if he is married and has three kids, you should forget about it, but you should NEVER go straight to him and kiss him or tell him about your feelings, not only because that would be very awkward for him and you, his wife could get angry.Look for boys in your age, there are many nice men in your age.
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