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writes:Is it possible to be a heterosexual christian woman and have a bisexual female friend... of course.What if I am attracted to her though. I am really determined to be with a guy though. My church teaches that homosexuality is a sin, but whenever me and her are two together I get sexually excited and just feel like we are dating.I do not want to lose this friendship... She has been one of my best friends for three years. I have stopped telling her I love her and stopped hugging her thinking maybe this will change my feelings.She will bring up girl on girl love stories or movies and I totally get uncomfortable and shut it out. It hurts her feelings. Sometimes when I am with her I forget who I have become. I let her touch my body in different places that is forbidden and I am sad to say I enjoy it. How can I stop this without ruining our friendship? Btw we are both 19 and about to be 20.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): i understand the fear, and although i believe in god, i believe the bible to be more of a guide line, then a exact guild to a great life for a perfect after death. the time is changing, there are many churches that will accept gay people. your a adult, make choices, and live your own life. your not living in sin, your living in the truth. i hope you figure out a way to make yourself happy, because living a lie and keeping a friendship with someone you care dearly for, doesn't go away and by keeping 'god' happy, you cause yourself pain. follow your heart.
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reader, HeartBlossom +, writes (24 March 2011):
 I think if you look up Wikipedia's list of Christian denominational positions on homosexuality you'll find that many well-established Christian churches accept your feelings as valid for a layperson to pursue. We're not talking about small groups: Episcopalians, Eastern Orthodox, Lutherans, Catholics, Presbyterians, most European churches, etc. You can be a member of any of those churches and still enjoy this friendship without disapproval, although some may withhold particular ritual privileges particularly including the right to be ordained. Episcopalians and Lutherans will accept you completely.So you don't have to make a choice between love and faith, just a choice between love and the human institution you were raised to attend.If you do choose your church over the person who warms your heart, though, make it a clean break--let her move on while you do too.
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