A
female
age
30-35,
*egan_23
writes:Ok, I have been with my current boyfriend for 6 years. We have twins together who are 18 months old and we are not married because I know that we are not right for each other we have had so many problems and he has been in jail like 5 times since we have been together for mainly DUI's. About 2 years ago I started having feeling for one of our friends. I kept the feeling to myself and tried to forget about them. Months later he told me he had feeling for me. since then they have grown but we don't want to hurt anybody. He also has a girlfriend. People know including my boyfriend that we have messed around but noone knows we still are. I really want to be with him and he is all I can think about, and he says I am all he can think about. What do we do and is this relationship doomed since we have been sneaky?
View related questions:
has a girlfriend, in jail Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Megan_23 +, writes (31 July 2007):
Megan_23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help! I am really 23 years old and me, my boyfriend and the twins live together, but he is in jail again...so right now its just us girls
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): That isn't true that someone who will cheat with you will cheat on you. If you're in a doomed relationship & he knows it & has feelings for you, he figures you aren't going to be with your current boyfriend forever anyways. The thing I'd be concerned abt. is your age..13-15 & have twins. Where are the kids living? Who's supporting them financially? You need to think abt. what is best for them as well as for you..
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): this is so wrong. if i were you i'd take the kids somewhre far away and just start over fresh, otherwise you and several other people are gonna suffer. sorry i couldnt be more help. XxX
...............................
A
female
reader, penta +, writes (31 July 2007):
 It's probably doomed. Someone who will cheat with you will cheat on you.
If your BF's friend and you want a relationship, it's time to lay all your cards on the table. Be honest with your BF and his GF. Start talking with him about the support of your twins -- their welfare should be at the front of your mind.
It sounds like even if your BF's friend doesn't want to take this step, you should leave your BF. You won't find someone new while you're half with him. Talk with your BF about support options for the twins, and go out on your own.
It's the honest thing to do, and it's the only way you're going to be able to move forward.
...............................
|
