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writes:Hello,I have a strange problem and I really hope I can find any answer for it or somebody who is having the same.So, everytime I fall in love and have a relation with some boy, he starts to have so much bad luck (for example lost work, broken laptop, his mom got sick, he caused a road accident,...) and many many other things which made me think I am brining the bad luck to them, because until they were single or after we broke up the bad luck disappeared.Did anybody notice this kind of crazy things about herself?Please let me know, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2013): What do friday the 13s, black cats, walking under ladders, bananas on boats and you have in common?The answer is observation biasm. Someone probably once told you that you brought them bad luck, and now you attribute all the bad things that happen to your boyfriend as being caused by you. I have had mixed feelings about luck in the past. I never considered myself too lucky until I got a lucky tattoo. Then after that I couldnt stop winning. I would get a ticket in a company raffle and would win, won lucky door prizes at every event that I went to. I worked out that after I got the tattoo I won 12 bottles of wine, 2 cases of beer, hampers and other assorted prizes. I was unstoppable. My superstition however refused to allow myself to buy lottery tickets as I thought that I would lose and that would end my streak. I eventually lost it when I switched a tickets to sweap that the office was having. The ticket I gave up was the winner. After that I entered a lucky dip draw where 70% of people would win. I didnt. I havent won anything since. That was 3 years ago.So my answer to you is mixed. My head is telling you that you are seeing the patterns that you are affraid of and it isnt real. The superstitious part of me is saying consult a gypsy give her all your money and posetions and break the curse!I think the real answer is both. Not so much the gypsy, but stop looking for negative patterns, buy yourself a lucky charm, and start seeing the positive patterns and dont worry so much about the negatives. If you believe in bad luck, then start believing in good luck. Perhaps the guy wasnt right and it is fate's way of telling you a better partner is coming up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2013): The road accident was not because he is bad driver... I was with him when it happened,...he just stopped the bus to get in and a man on moto going behind the bus didnt notice that and crashed into the bus... it was terrible moment for me to see it all in front of my eyes
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (6 October 2013):
"Shit happens."
Ever heard that saying? Well, it's very true. Let's see, depending on how I frame it, here is some of the supposedly bad luck (aka "life") my wife of 6 years and I have caused each other since we married:
We both lost our jobs. Our car broke down. My motorcycle broke down. We got into a car accident. Our house was broken into and someone stole my Xbox. Our children were born with minor birth defects that required surgery at two years old. My wife's mother died of cancer (which she had before we met). My grandma and grandpa died in their early 80's. Her computer hard drive went bad. I hurt my back. Something got lost in the mail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2013): Do not beat yourself up about all this that has happened. Your not to blame by any means. But all of this nonsense out of your sweet little head.
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reader, Ladyhopeful  +, writes (5 October 2013):
Unfortunately, bad things happen all the time to anyone, at anytime....believe me, you are not the cause of these bad occurances.
You aren't a bad person or cursed, like I said, unfortunately bad things happen sometimes.
Don't think badly of yourself.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 October 2013):
 I think the case is rather that you pick bad boyfriends. When you're not in a relationship with them you don't see/hear about the bad situations they get themselves into- Causing a road accident is NOT bad luck, that's being a bad driver and not being responsible.
Bad things happen, and they happen especially often to people who are no good. People who are lazy and can't hold a job, people who aren't responsible and cause accidents.. And everyone's family members can get sick.
Get to know a guy better before you date him and find someone who's got his life in track, rather than a man who's a disaster waiting to happen.
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reader, like I see it +, writes (5 October 2013):
 Not being a believer in superstitions, I'd say it's extremely unlikely that their "bad luck" has anything to do with you. Both good and bad things of various degrees of seriousness happen to everyone on a daily basis.I think it's far more likely that these guys chose not to bring down your budding relationships by telling you about negative things when they were first getting to know you, and that once you were no longer a couple they didn't see a reason to keep you updated about bad things happening in their lives then either.Current partners, on the other hand, are often a person's first choice to vent to about the bad day they had or the possession of theirs that broke or the crazy neighbor with whom they had a run-in... you name it. So while you were dating these guys they brought their troubles to you.You're not cursed. Hope this helps :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 October 2013):
 While the "glib" answer is.... that you are probably a witch.... The REAL answer is that you are seeing a whole bunch of coincidences.... and trying to personalize them. Forget that.....
Good luck...
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