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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Two days ago, we got into We are not speaking now and he said he wants to see other people. I have been going through some feelings of insecurity and I started to not trust him-even though he has not been dishonest. I was wrong, and I hurt him by being insecure and accusing him of being dishonest. I know he is a wonderful man and he still loves me. He told me that he did not want to talk to me for awhile, but that he does love me. He said he would call me in a few weeks. I'm using this time to figure out why I behaved the way I did and to talk to a therapist about my insecurity issues. I love him so much and I want to fix this. I just need to know what to do now. I want to make this up to him and try to resolve this. Any advice is appreciated!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 March 2011):
Hang on a moment -
You say that you became insecure and started to suspect he was being dishonest. And his response was to stop speaking to you and decide to see other people, even though he said he loved you?
Not to put a fine point to it, but if he loved you, even with your insecurities his response wouldn't be to stop talking, claim he loves you and see other people.
It sounds more likely to me that your feelings were right, and that he is in fact being dishonest.
Certainly get yourself some therapy, but also decide whether you really think a man who loves you and says he loves you would dump you to see other people and leave you dangling. I don't think a man who loves you would do that, and I suspect that your feelings about him being dishonest are closer to the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): hello sweetie. he wants to see other women but keep you .that does not help your insecure problem . either it works or it doesnt . im not saying your not insecure . but sometimes guys behavior does not help . does he flirt wit hotter women . have more women friends than men . there are so many questions . but sweetie dont beat yourself up either over this guy . it will make it worse. the bottom line is either your going to be trust or not .just make sure hes not toying with your emotions
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