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writes:Please don't judge me because of my question, as I'm still only a (legal) teenager,But me and my boyfriend so far have only had sex twice, and well is it normal for on the second time him to last so long? he lasted for 30-40 mins, but I thought guys were meant to cum quickly? Is this a good thing? HELP! :S Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): It varies from person to person.Some can last for hours (though this rare and most people, whatever they might say, bulk at having to go for that long as prolonging sex can be painful) and others minutes.It all depends on what you think constitutes sex. If you make out, eat each other out and do everything under the sun outside of actual penetration for two hours and then have ten minutes of penetrative sex... would you consider that to have been ten minutes of sex? Or do you count the foreplay beforehand to be part of the sex?Likewise, you can train yourself to last longer if need be, the whole Tantric Sex thing is based upon that. But also realise that having an erection constantly for more than a few hours is considered to be a medical emergency and can be extremely painful for a guy.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): It's neither good nor bad, it's normal.
It varies a lot for me, depending on a million different factors I can last anything from 5 minutes to 2+ hours, my girl usually gets off after 10-20 minutes so any longer than that is unnecessary for her, so I'll usually time it to get off at the same time or just after.
Look if your boyfriend is roughly the same age as you then he's likely inexperienced and thinks, like a lot of guys do, that lasting as long as you can is the goal. It's nuts but people seem to think that lasting ages is important. 10-20 minutes is the average sex time and you only really need to last as long as the girl you are with and the time it takes for her to get off.
Every guy is different though so it might just take him that long to get off, or maybe it was just that time it took him that long. Perhaps he'd already ejaculated that day etc.
Look most guys will vary, seriously there are times when I just release immediately and there's nothing I can do and there are other times it just won't no matter how long I go for.
The only time this matters would be if he came too quickly every time or just couldn't cum at all. All else is normal and nothing worry about.
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Well, first time round im sure he was a bit nervous even if hes had sex before, different girl, so i'm guessing second time round he had a clearer head and prob could concentrate on what he was doing to you rather than what you where doing to him, if you get me!
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reader, LunaticLove92  +, writes (27 March 2011):
Ha, im 18 and me and my gf have been dating 2 years, when we first started having sex I lasted like 2 hours for like the first 6 times and after that the time started going down every time we did it, now after 2 years our sex last an average if 10 min, which in my opinion isnt long enough,...but I really dont have an explanation, im no doctor, but I suppose its normal. Just enjoy the length while it last.
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