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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for about one and a half years now. There were ups and downs but we mangaed to stay together. He is really nice and caring now after all the arguements. Except that he still dislike some of my guy friends (I've known some of them for years and now I gotta avoid them and I can't do it!). Even though all he had done, I feel like we're just moving further away from each other. We're two very very different people. Other than in the taste of music, we almost have nothing in common. Maybe thats why opposites attract. There were major agruements and I've tried to break up with him twice but he just begs me not to leave and I have no choice cos' he is so determined. We've discuss about our marriage and such, we're of different religion so everyone expects me to follow his and his friends asked when will I convert but I know in my heart that I don't want to and I can't. I can't let my kids follow too. Telling by my age, I'm not ready for commitment and I get guilty when he talks about marriage cos' I know I'll never marry him. He is a really good friend and we share things to each other but I don't think we can be together cos' we're too different. I want to see more things and have my friends back as this relationship confines too much of my space. I really love him but I can't be with him cos' I can never give up a thing for him. I think he deserve a better girl, maybe someone similar to him. (I'm a party person while he likes to be just the two of us.)I doubt that he can support me in future as his results in school are really poor and he doesn't do much to help! I really love him and can't bear to leave but I know it's best for me. I wanna know if there is a nice way of breaking up with him and avoiding him from begging me not to leave. Reply to this Question
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 I don't think there's any way to avoid him being sad. Breakups are hard. The best way to do it is to be honest and free him and yourself to find the people that are your true partners.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): Cold turkey.........tell him bluntly then change your number, get someone to answer the door on your behalf, delete his e-mails without reading them.........in time he will come to accept you want nothing more to do with him!
It will hurt him but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind!
This way he can move on with his life and try to find the type of girl that will be right for him and you can be happy too.
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