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writes:I am 6 weeks pregnant my partner of 5 years has left me. I have a daughter from a previous guy although she believes my partner who has just left is her daddy. I am engaged to be married although my partner has cancelled the wedding 3 times, saying we cant afford it. I believe he just wont commit and he has left me terribly upset. Also every time a new house move is about to go through he pulls out and wont go ahead with the sale, we live in my house. He leaves me about 3 times every year and Im devasted every time. I am not pregnant and he has left, he says he now doesnt want a baby although we have been trying for one. What shall I do
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): I am almost 6 weeks pregnant too but my boyfriend left me. when he knew about the baby, he proposed to me and we were in the midst of discussing our marriage plan. At this stage, his mother complained to him that my Chinese Character clashes with her and should I marry him, I will curse the mother. His mother says he has only one mother but he can have many wives.
He decided to listen to his mother and he left me and the baby yesterday.
Totally sorry that the man cannot face the truth and decided to run away. I beleive now is the time that I need to be strong for both myself and the little one.
I also wish to thank you for this post as it makes me realise that I am not the only unfortunate one who met such weak man in our life.
I hope you will be strong and so will I and we shall look forward to a wonderful new life inside us.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (10 September 2007):
 I would let him be and sort you and your life out with your children. What a horrible thing to do to you. Maybe he is scared of commitment but he shouldn't keep dropping you at the first sign of something that is going to "tie him down". Surely buying a house/getting married/ etc is all part of life.
Let him come and fight for you and make sure you tell him hun that what he is doing cannot continue. He can't keep dropping not only you, but the children aswell. It will be messing around with the little girl's head as well as making her mummy not happy everytime he does.
I agree with RCN that each time you take him back it shows him that all is ok when clearly it isn't. He needs to know this time that he is either with you and commits to that, or he's not. He can't go off each time something scares him. We all worry about commiting at some point but he seems to run at the slightest thing!
You deserve to be treated better hunni! Especially now you are pregnant!
Good Luck!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 It's time to let him go. It doesn't sound like he's looking for a life time partner. When you let him go and come back then do it over and over again, you're teaching him that you accept his behavior. At some time you have to be strong and let him know your important. Your relationship is important to you and having a child all ready and another one on the way you don't have the room to play childish games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): I don't know. I have got to say you really set yourself up for this. A guy who breaks up with you 3 times a year. Has cancelled your wedding several times. Cancels your plans to sell your house. Basically this guy has been nothing but INCONSISTENT with you and STILL you go ahead and get pregnant. Did you not know this was going to happen?I mean you yourself said he breaks up with you all the time and cancels plans ALL THE TIME. So what did you expect? So he left you again AS USUAL. So get yourself a lawyer and have him pay some sort of child support for your baby. That's all.
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