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*heese
writes:I’m in a bit of a jam.I’ve been friends with a girl now for a couple of months and we get along real fine, she’s quickly become one of my best friends, but she’s 4 years younger than me and we’ve run into some issues involving our friendship.We both like each other very much but we’ve decided not to take our relationship further and just carry on being friends because of the fact she’s not 16 yet, we both have a mutual friend who would be hurt if we went out now (her best friend/my ex) and our parents have been on both our cases non stop about us sneaking out to see each other late at night.Both our parents aren’t very happy with our friendship as they see it as more than just real good friends, put down to us sneaking out I guess, and we are real close and happy when we’re together.My parents have been on at me non stop and are saying I’m acting like a 14 year old about the whole situation. Her mum told me today that I would have a visit from the police if I keep hanging out with her.Should I be a man and just end our relationship all together? It would solve all the problems but I’d miss her, and I know she would miss me.Or could we carry on still being friends for now but risk all the other parts of our lives going to the dogs?Or is there something I’m missing? Feel free to ask for more info if I haven’t been clear enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): No No no!
You carry on being friends with her if thats what you both want! You aint doing nothing wrong and no body can prove that you are! If you's are happy then so be it!
Although i suggest that you stop sneaking out at night (a bit dodgey yes?)
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Dear Cheese,
If i was you i would stop seeing her intil she is old enough like (18) you are of the age of going to jail because of this girl you are facing up to 1yr to 5yrs and its really not worth it if this girl decides that i dont want to be friends with him anymore you can get charged with rape and the hole 9 yrds you have to becareful with this young girls. you should tell her that you think its best if you guys dont hangout for awhile and wait intil she is 18 or intil both your parnets allow you guys to be friends, and sneaking out to see this girl is it really worth it? you can find people your age you dont really have anything in common with a younger girl this girl is just relizing what the world is like, she needs people her age! if i wasyou i would back off jail isnt worth it! you face all that time for nothing and then when you get out she wont even be there to see you she will forget about you hope i helped
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reader, tkay1032 +, writes (17 March 2007):
 Well you do need to stop as far as thinking you can be any more than friends. She is to young and you could end up in real trouble. As far as sneeking out bad idea. I have a 17 yr old daughter and if she was doing that I would be the one to go to jail cuz I would prolly kick the guys butt!! I think you need to find a girl your age. You can still be friends with her just distance yourself till she is older.
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