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writes:I am 17 years old male, in my senior year of high school. I have had a crush on a 33 year old male teacher in my school since the end of my sophomore year. =/ It has gotten to the point where I feel like I am in love with, I have actual feelings for him... Me and a few of my other friends think he could be gay, but we're not sure. At the beginning of last year, he sometimes made it seem like he liked me too, but then I started to think it was cuz he's a teacher and he was trying to be nice. I don't want to do anything and make it really awkward if he's not gay. However, last year for valentines day, I gave him a box of chocolates and a card saying that I really liked him and that I know he doesn't have the same feelings for me. The next day he had me stay after class and he told me that was "a little inappropriate" and he just said "sorry." I was a little confused. He ended up not telling anyone even though he was really supposed to report it. Whenever I'm around him though, I (and my friends) make it really obvious that I like him, but I feel like its more than that. I feel like I love him. He's like the perfect guy for me, he's cute, funny, and nice. And somehow we have A LOT in common. I've tried many times to just forget about my feelings for him, but it just never worked. Someone please help me with what I should do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut I don't think this is a "crush." I think I actually love him...I don't think I can really live without him around... Like for example, when he's absent from school and I don't get to see him, I often am in a bad mood and I easily get angry at things, like it even carries over to my home...ill get like angry at my parents for the littlest things. And also I'm like past all the sexual feelings for him, I feel like just being around him at all makes me happy and puts me in a good mood..like just knowing that he's still there. I really don't know what to do about all this...someone please give me some help.. I've tried MANY times to get over him, but I just truely love him...I know its innappropriate, but I can't help it.. =/ ...advice?
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reader, marnan  +, writes (17 May 2010):
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a crush on your teacher,after all others have crushes on actors, pop singers even their family Doctor or dentist. The real problem is acting on the crush and there is no way of putting it politely except HANDS OFF he is your teacher and nothing else. Although you meant well with the card and chocolates and silently he would have a little smitten with your kindness, he was more than well aware he he is in a position of trust with all his students and therefore felt uncomfortable with the gift. To continue acting on your feelings could put him in an awkward position and may lead him getting into trouble with superiors. Therefore, it is best for both of you if you accept he is a super, funny, nice and cute teacher and you are his student. And if you really did respect him and want to earn his respect for you then you would work hard in his lessons and do the best to pass in his subject. As for him being gay or not, that his his business not yours. When the academic year is over then a small box of chocolates and a thank you card, simply stating thank you sir for your hard work will be more than appreciated, but do give the gift in front of your friends.
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