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writes:I have an ongoing issue. I am longing for a dildo, and I am only 14! I really want to ask my mom for one but don't know how to confront her about it. Am I too young? If not, how should I ask her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2022): BTW, if you hurt yourself, you'll be afraid to explain how it happened to your parents!
I don't recommend you use objects that might have bacteria on it, or something that might contain chemicals that could burn you, or cause any sort of irritation.
Responders, please remember this could be a minor!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2022): It's not likely you'll be allowed to outright purchase something sold in adult stores, and you can't shop online without a credit card.
I see some people are telling you to improvise; but I hate to disagree or contradict others, but you're too young!!!
We have to be responsible what we suggest to underaged-minors online.
You have to be careful what you're placing up your vagina. You're just a kid, and your young body is still growing and developing. You could injure yourself, inflict vaginal tearing, or cause an infection.
I disagree that anyone should be telling a minor to do anything that may upset your parents, go against their wishes, or might cause you injury.
Just wait until you're at least 17.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (23 February 2022):
 Just save up your money, go get a card, then just order your own, or get on the bus or catch a ride and go buy one, I don't think it's illegal, I don't see why they wouldn't sell you one, i absolutely would not ask your parents for one, unless you guys are like that, but if you were you'd not be asking us this right? I don't know you seem pretty young, but from all I see the age lanes for that kind of shit don't seem to be the same as they have been most my life, it's odd you even want this at your age, but just act normal about it and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2022): No don’t start using other objects because people have ended up at A and E emergency hospital with objects stuck inside them .
Just leave it until your a bit older is the best way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2022): Improvise. We all did at your age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2022): If you got one, where will you keep it that your parents won't find it and flip-out?
Nope, not yet, sweetheart! You're barely past the age of playing with regular toys, let alone sex-toys.
If your parents say you can have one, go right-ahead!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 February 2022):
 While I get that you are getting an influx of hormones and some of those are with regards to sexual appetite, I think you might want to slow your roll here.
A 14 year old does NOT need sex toys. You do not need to try and insert stuff in yourself. Plenty of other ways to explore your body. You have 2 hands with 10 fingers (I presume).
Most sex toys are made of silicone, but when sex toys aren't regulated we can't. Which means that they could potentially cause cancer.
I also hope you stay away from porn overall. Porn is NOT reality. It's NOT how it works. It's is pretend. It's fake.
I do agree with Ruby that it would be weird to ask your parent for a dildo - AT ANY AGE.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (22 February 2022):
A Dildo is simply an inanimate object that is a similar shape to an erect penis. So you can improvise your own. Roll-on deodorant bottles are often the right shape. So are candles, carrots, zucchini and cucumbers.... Just make sure the object is clean and doesn't shed particles before you use it as a dildo. You can always put a condom over the item if in doubt.
If you're wanting a vibrator which is slightly different to a dildo (it vibrates and might not be penis shaped) then an electric toothbrush fits the bill perfectly so ask your mum for one of those. Or one the hand-held deep tissue massages.
But don't ask your mum to buy you a sex toy. No parent is ever ready to hear about their teenagers burgeoning sexual appitite. It's just too weird.
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