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writes: I am 14 years old, and have never been kissed. All of my friends, and most of the people in my school have all experienced a 'first kiss' and I am one of the only ones who hasn't. Sure, I've pecked someone on the lips, but I have not yet had a proper french-kiss, and in my school you have to have done that by the age of 13 if you are ever going to be considered "popular".I have began to receive negative comments coming from people who are aware of my embaressing secret. I personally don't think that french-kissing someone is THAT important, but apparently in my school it appears to be extrememly important.Some people in my year are beginning to go further than kisses, and some are already losing their virginity. I realise that the burden on my shoulders is going to become heavier if people who aren't virgins find out that I have still not kissed a boy, and I dread to think what they will think as time progresses.It doesn't help that I'm not the prettiest girl in my year at school, either, and I find it a bit more difficult than most people do when it comes to getting a boyfriend. And besides, most of the boys in my year aren't even worth asking out! The good ones are already taken, or are out of my league, or are just plain ugly!I'm not sure whether I should just resort to going out with boys from other schools, but I know that that can be dangerous, especially if I meet up with someone who isn't who he says he is on 'msn'.Please help me!x x x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): i am 14 now going on 15 and i know exactyl how you feel although i have had the chance a number of times and had 2 boyfriends and a few guys who like me an the moment but i dont hav feelings for these guys and when i had the chance with my bfs before i got nervous and chickened out thinking that they wouldnt like me if i was a 'bad kisser'. i still havnt had my 1st kiss, though all my friends have and i am scared from my inexperience and his experience.
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reader, purplecloud03  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 hey theres nothing to worry about. i didnt get a proper kiss till i as 16 and a half and i was one of the pretty ones..i was just to damn shy and worried about what the 'experienced' ones would think when or if i kissed them seeing as i didnt know what i was doing.the boy that i did kiss was my boyfriend who was very experienced (lost virginity at 11) and he just hung out until i was ready to kiss him and when i did the first time i felt awkward but u get over it. as for feeling that people r gonna judge u coz they r experienced n have done more then kissng forget about them. it really isnt important and even tho at school 'popular' is important it really isnt, u will see that those people dont get far alot of the time and end up getting into drugs and alcohol in a bad way.you will be fine..just find someone who likes u for u and it will be fine!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I know how you feel. I have felt very similar, and I didn't have my first kiss (and sobre..) til i was almost 16 !!
Peer pressure is an absolute pain, it's something really important and really not at the same time.
If you don't think that it is important to hav 'french-kissed' someone then you don't need to rush yourself into doing it! I'm not saying that you should stop looking for guys, cos there's nothing wrong with that, and when you find someone who you like and who likes you too - things will flow naturally.
If anyone tells you that you're stupid or whatever for not having kissed someone just tell them to p*** off. And when you're older the nicer guys go for the girls that haven't slept with half the population before the age of 16. People get to a certain age where things like that aren't regarded as 'cool'.
So you just wait for the right person and trust me, you'll be a million times happier for it when it happens :-)
Keep us updated and good luck!
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): *sigh* "The good ones are already taken, or are out of my league, or are just plain ugly!"and what exactly makes a "good one" lol listen despite my pic(i dont like it some others seem to tho)i am considered a "good looking"guy i have had MANY chances to kiss someone who really i didnt have feelings for so i didnt i have even had a few chances to have sex with some girls however even tho they were attractive i didnt feel like it could be a stable relationship as such i declined(not to mention i dont believe in sex before marriage)so here i am i am 18 year's old and have never had a regular kiss let alone a "proper"kiss ya iv been hazed about it quite a bit but when it comes down to it im just a good decent man who just so happens to have never been in a relationship...it doesnt mean all that much and when i was in around the 7th grade i gave up on the whole "popular"thing trust me down the road it just seems silly kiss someone because you have feelings for them not because you feel it to be an obligation
-michael
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): God your only 14! But I rememeber what it felt like when I were younger, I was like you. All the decent guys in school [barely any] were taken and the rest weren't worth the effort at all. I promise you when your older, you think it stupid you were worried so much at a young age. If your cool with it, then so will everyone else. If you act like your worried and shy about it then people will pounce on you.
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reader, ajob  +, writes (14 May 2008):
dont worry about the first kiss that will come in time dont feel pressured you be youself and as for loosing your virginity dont just guve it away because once its lost you cant gt it back. those popular people you talked about often brag about doing things that they havent done a lot is for show and at least you can think to yourself your not a slag. i have known plenty of those popular girls to end up as singel parents by the age of 15. try and join a club or a good place is at an under 18s club or even ice skating if you can something fun where you get to meet new people. have more confidence in yourself and let your friends know your worries youll find if they are real friends they will be very surportive and helpful.
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reader, To Understand +, writes (14 May 2008):
 heyy :)first of all i would like to say that and this is a well known fact-the first french kiss isnt as great as people make it out to be. so you shouldnt rush it although the situation your in may feel embaressing but trust me its better than getting a name for yourself by doing alsorts at the age you already are.i am 15 years old and i experienced my first french kiss with my boyfriend at the time when i was 13. i was gutted because it wasnt what i expected, i expected the whole heart pounding, knees collasping experience but all i got was his tounge at the back of my throat and abit of saliva on my mouth all because i wanted to rush into things as i felt i needed to get with him because some of my friends had already with a boy. the thing is i was only with the lad within 2 weeks i think so i hadnt been able to build anything special with him.i would advise you to find a guy who you quite fancy and build something up with him, maybe leading to a relationship where you can have that special kiss.dont just throw it away to anyone! because although it may not be a big deal that you feel like you should just throw it away and 'get it over with' your always going to remember it like your always going to remember your first time having sex.and yes i do think that it is dangerous meeting people off the internet so i advise that you keep to people you know and trust.hope iv been of some sort of helpxxx
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