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writes: Im a 13 years old. Most of my friends have lost their virginity. I have to listen to everything they say about how great it was. I for one haven't.Is there something wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): look... i am 13 years old and i have lost my virginity... i have had sex 10 times with a guy i relly love... but there is nothing wrong with you... i admire you for not doing that yet! i can't say i regret for having sex but i found the right guy earlier. that's why i did it. and i would not do it with anyone else. wait until you find the right guy. and when you do do not care for your age... this day may be tomorrow or in 5 years... and the first is ALWAYS painful, your honast friens must know that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Buddy your way too young to even consider having sex, your hormones have probably just started to kick in and take effect!
Your mates are more then likely lying to you to look cool in front of other people. Lets face it, when your 13, you probably will tell white-lies to "big yourself up to your mates". Saying that you've lost your virginity at such a young age is a common lie to tell.
I lost my virginity at 15 and kinda wished I waited those few days until my 16th birthday. Now I'm 18 and about to start another sexual relationship. Its best to wait because it'd make it more special when the time comes, if you sleep aorund you will not only get a bad reputation but regret losing your virginity at 13 for life.
Seriously mate dont do it until your a little bit more mature
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): Definately not. I have just lost my virginity at the age of 17. I waited 3 weeks and we were only this quick because our love and trust is so strong. Waiting until you are with someone and ready is the best option
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): No don't ever think cuz some one else is doing it its good...my gf lost her virginity when she was 13 she got raped at a party...i love her so much and you prolly have TONS of ppl who care about you so just dont do anything untill your ready or older....
If u need more help email [email address blocked] my name is stefani
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): No way is there anything wrong with you!!! At 13 you are way too young to be thinking of losing your virginity!!
Don't just do it for the sake of it and cos all your friends have lost their virginity or at least are saying that they have!!
Guys prefer girls who aren't "easy" and love the chase!! I was going out with my boyf over 6 months before I slept with him (I was 19) and he told me years after that he respected me more for that!!
They don't want to be thinking " I wonder who's been here before me?" Go out and enjoy life with out the worry of that on your young shoulders yet...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): No there is nothing wrong with you. Im 13 too and im not even thinking about having sex. Your friends might just be lying anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): I personally think your friends are lying to look cool
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reader, lost cause +, writes (26 September 2006):
 Your friends are going to regret what they have done later on in life when they realise it was a crazy thing to do. It probably sounds cheesy saying you should "wait for the right one" but that line wouldnt be so famous if it werent true.
dont do it xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): don't do it, there's a lot to think about, as others said, you will regret it, kiss, cuddle, have some fun but leave that stuff alone for now. I had to wait until 22, that wasn't my choice as I had major confidence problems. But I reckon about 17 or 18 is a better age for it with someone who cares something and isn't just lying and just after sex. Then you won't regret it and you'll feel better.
Right now I'm with a girl who lost it at 15 to some guy she knew one week. She feels really bad about it, I feel bad because I had to wait a years longer, but it was to someone great. So, I think you have to try to wait until about 17 or 18 (really great if you have the choice eh!) and make the guy wait a month or a few months, then you know him better and you won't feel so bad in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): NO! I will tell you as a male that sex is overrated and don't even think about having sex untill AT LEAST 16. It complicates things so, so much. You are not ready and any 13 year old girl having sex is far to easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): there is nothing wrong with you.its just not the right time.i never had sex and my friends tell me about it. im 13 too. you should not be having sex at 13.i think its not the right time for me and its not the right time for you.dont worry when the time is right then it will happen.
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reader, Aaliyah12345678 +, writes (25 September 2006):
no if you have not had sex. theres nothing wrong with you.your just not ready.i never had sex. and my friends tell me how it is.i just dont think im ready and you just might think your not ready.
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reader, Juliette  +, writes (24 September 2006):
 I work where mothers support there young daughters to have sex early and I found that quite shocking, but it has become 'normal' in their society. You are you, and do not have to conform to this pressure. To be your own person makes you special by doing what is right and having your own mind, not just doing what everyone thinks has become normal or usual. You may not feel a child, but in the yes of the law you are, and anyone who has sex with you is breaking the law. Even if you have no respect for the law, have respect for yourself and you do not have to become a woman too young. To be a real grown up woman or man, you would have the maturity to be strong and stand apart from what 'everyone does' these days. My daughter is 21 and is a virgin, I know she has been tempted, but it was her decision not to allow sex to be the staying force in a relationship. When a boy wants you for who you are, the sex will be the icing on the cake for desert after a banquet of getting to know you, not a quick fumble in the biscuit tin!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): I agree you are much too young to be thinking about these thing and trust me the first time isn't as great as your friends are making it out to be.
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reader, Aiobhelle +, writes (24 September 2006):
No there is nothing wrong with u! Losing ur virginity is a big deal and those that do it without even thinkin about it, will regret it wenever they are older and wiser. Wait untill ur with someone that u are 100% comfortable with and in love with. Then it will be special and not something that u are lookin bac in regret with, as u get older. Trust urself as an individual and dont jus do wot ur friends consider to be normal.
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 No there is nothing wrong with you, you shouldn't be having sex at 13 it's not legal for a start and you are still only a child and have so many other things to be dealing with at 13 like school, developing into a woman that having sex at this age would be a mistake, and you will probably find alot if not all of your friends haven't either and just saying so to 'fit' in.
Don't do something you will regret in a few years, you have plently of time to lose your virginity and at 13 is not one of them.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (24 September 2006):
 honey, most people dont lose thier virginity till they are 16-20, i lost my virginity when i was 14, and i wish i didnt, i wish i had waited till i found some1 i truely liked and was mature enuf to say 'yes, i want to lose my virginity to (girls names here)'
so basicly, there is nothing ATALL wrong with you, sex isnt a game, it isnt about when or how, its about knowing when you've done it you wanted to and it ment something.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): Ofcourse there is nothing wrong with you! It is your choice what yuo do with your life and yuo shouldn't ley your friends influence that. The legal age to lose your virginity is 16 anyway so it may be safer to wait hun. Do you really want to be diagnosed with HIV or get pregant at such a young age? remember condoms do and can split so yuo really must be careful. If yuo feel you are ready then that is yuor choice but yuo must think about the consequences.
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