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writes: me and my boyfriend have been dating for around 3 weeks and we have done all the basic oral. i am only 13 but he keeps talking about having sex with me and i dont know what do do help please! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): Reading these answers made me go WTF!?! You guys are 12-14. The last thing that you guys should be having is sex. Stop acting so mature and please improve on your english because you can't even spell and you're already having sex.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 This post is over 4 years old, I'm betting she has a couple of kids by now.
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reader, KaylaBabey  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 Haaay. I am 13, me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 and a half years now. I told him that I was ready for the next step in out relationship and so was he, so one day we were watching a movie on his bed and started making out, he got ontop of me and it all just happend without a word.
We were both virgins then but we are very happy now and we love eachother soo much.
Only do it if you are ready and if you are sure thats what you want and do it with someone you love not just some random you've been dating for like 2 days.
Just think about it somemore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): evanully if u say no and he say ok then he the one 4 u but mot boys 2 be truthfully some what 2 hit it quit it butif they ask u tell them no an see what they say if they say o then he is the 1 for you an i never had sex an im 13 im waiting till i find the right 1 or at least 18 an older 2 do that
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (27 December 2009):
 I am very old and mature person to advice a teen. I am not going to say that you are under age, and state law is such and such. Here is my clear advice.
1.First thing you make your determination: You love sex, means you love your lover also, but sex do not means 'VAGINAL PENETRATION'
2. Love means 'foreplay', is the way to love the body through delicate touch: all sort of touch ie, through tips of finger to tongue
3.Foreplay is complete perfect and satisfying method of making love. It is safe against pregnancy and also diseases.
4.Be firm on this method, even at the cost of losing friendship, will save you from lot of trouble: seen and unseen also.
5. I have lot to say to teen age lovers [male and female], and will say on certain question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): :)Hey girl now speaking as a friend, i am 13 and a year ago my bf asked me if i wanted to have sex, i said no the first couple times but he woudnt stop asking so finaly i gave in, he had gotten a condom from a friend and so i didnt get prego but it sucked! He dumped me about a year after that, that was a year ago and i still cry almost every night. What im trying to get at is that its not as fun as it sounds "when your 13" i know i cant stop you from doing it but speaking as an expirienced teen, if you dont do it, it will most likely save you a lot of heartake!
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reader, stupid girl +, writes (27 December 2009):
:)Hey girl now speaking as a friend, i am 13 and a year ago my bf asked me if i wanted to have sex, i said no the first couple times but he woudnt stop asking so finaly i gave in, he had gotten a condom from a friend and so i didnt get prego but it sucked! He dumped me about a year after that, that was a year ago and i still cry almost every night. What im trying to get at is that its not as fun as it sounds "when your 13" i know i cant stop you from doing it but speaking as an expirienced teen, if you dont do it, it will most likely save you a lot of heartake!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): You know, that's actually quite scary the number of 13-15 year olds that come on to this site asking if they should have sex with their boyfriends or not cause they're not sure if they're ready.
They really shouldn't be doing adult stuff at that age!
Wait until you're at the legal age AT LEAST!
Seriously, where are all your parents? -w-;
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reader, shizzle.123  +, writes (24 July 2008):
i am in a similar possition because i have a boyfriend who is the same age as me (13) but he wants to have sex with me and i want to do it but i am nervouse because i have never done it before and i havn't even started my period yet but dont let it bring you down tell him your not ready and if he says ok and stays you boyfriend then he is the perfect guy for you but if he dos'nt like your answere dump him because obvoiusly he's a non-caring ******* and you no what im gonna follow my own advise.====anywayz====
good look wiv ya boi cya=================
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): hey girl well i know its hard but if you only want to do it then you should if not leave him because im 13 too and my boyfriend was 19 yea i know he was a little to old for me but he changed ever since i was hanging out with my friend thomas and keeps on aking me to have sex so i totally ingore him now but he really still wants me so im confused too
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): DONT DO IT!! I'm 13 myself and i swear if you do you will regret it for the rest of your life; i have had 6 boyfriends in the past month because they wanted to do it, and you know what they broke up with me but idk. they had their own party with other girls and got them pregnant and they were all 15. I was so happy i said no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): Its up to you. If your ready go for it, but if it feels wrong then wait. Dont let him pressure you into having sex, if he does then hes not the right one for you. The right guy will understand how you feel and if he's the right one he will wait as long as it takes, A.K.A, your worth waiting for. If he cant accept that then he is a loser! Do what you feel is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): uhmm if u dont wnna have sex dont but im 14 and i only had sex acouple times. its not a "bad" thing its hormones raging but make sure u always have protection. my best friend he always says that he would take off my bathing suit in the beach and im fine with cuz i am careful. but this is funny he also says to everyone if u dont get good grades no sex lol. but it doesnt mean im a bad person or "omg she has sex" no i still get all a's and b's in school listen and have time to play and do work. We only did like twice cuz we are careful of the aids and everything. but jsy because i did it doesnt mean ima bad person. i am really nice and i AM NOT SEXUALLY ACTIVE AT ALL.. i just love him alot he didnt even push me. he is a sweethaert =] but if u feel it is wrong DONT GET PRESSURED then something badd will deff. happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): I am 13 and my boyfriend asked me if i was a virgin, so i told him the truth i said "yes".he goes "oh" Then he asked me if i would let him take my virginity.What should I Do?Because i sometimes feel dat im ready but then other times i feel scared.
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Even though I have a boy friend there is this boy in the eighth grade but he is 13 too,and we've been talkin on the phone a lot for a while then suddenly one day he asked me if i was a virgin, i said "yes" he says "will you let me be your first?" I didnt say nothing.I am confused because I like both boys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): i am in the same position i'm 13 and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex. i flat out told him no not until we are married .and he was totally fine with it . give it a shot yu never know until u try. good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): If you are only 13 and have been seeing eachother for only 3 weeks I think you should tell him your not ready and if he refuses to respect your choice, then you should dump him and stay away from him. If he respects your choice then he really is a good guy. A real boyfriend would respect you and your choice and who will support you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): dont worry about it your only 13 and you might wind up pregnent or with a disease you need to tell him straight up "look i dont want to have sex with you im too young and im not ready!"and if he tries to thats sexual harrasment and you might want to end it there and youy need to tell your parents immediatly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): ur only 13 and you should not do things that you dont want to do. you are too young to start having sex. once you lose ur virginity that's it you know how it feels. but boys think that sex is nothing bad cause they cant get prgnant. so they dont care about you and if he did he would not be asking you this. 4 weeks is not enough to get to know each other like that maybe a couple of years is. go out and have fun parties, malls, beaches, shopping, sleep overs but just dont do anything that you dont feel right about .and you may think that i dont know about this stuff but i do. i am 13 just like some of you guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): Ur 13 girlie im 17 n I rember thinking about that when I was 13 n guess what I told the guy no n he broke up with me n told all his friends he only wanted sum ass so listen Hes the EXACT same okay they dont care if they have sex they cant get pergnat but u can and it will ruin ur life dont do it please Thank you
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reader, Yos  +, writes (28 September 2006):
 I don't understand why 'oral sex' isn't considered sex. I mean, it's even called oral SEX. I guess it's the obsession with trying to remain a virgin whilst trying to 'get some' at the same time. Or maybe we can thank Bill Clinton?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): your too young mentally your not ready tell him this dont let him pressure you and dont do anything your not 100percent happy with else you will regret it and be emotionally upset your growin up but your not a woman yet so be a child go school have fun if he doesnt accept it. trust me he doesnt care enough anyway 3 weeks is not long enough to start having sex or oral plus there are risks of sexual infections good luck hun hope you take the advice and be young and free.
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reader, vixie +, writes (25 September 2006):
 if you dont want to have sex with him tell him that you would want to wait for a while before having sex you to have only been together 3 weeks and u probably still dont know if you love eachother so for now please just say no to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): I'm sorry but my first thought was what the hell is a 13 year old doing even thinking about sex???? I'm only 21 and at 13 i was still nervous about my first french kiss with a boy. Slow down and live a little girl. For a start i think you need to stay away from this boy, tell him that there will be no sex for at least a few years and if he can't respect you for that then he better find himself a new girl to mess up. Just think if you start having sex now you could end up 13 years old with a baby, believe me you don't want that. I'm 21 and i find it hard looking after my baby. Please PLease PLease don't do this to yourself. I no your going to think i don't no what i'm talking about and i'm old and etc etc.... But believe me you'll regret not waiting until you older. Please listen to me and the fellow aunts we're not telling you this just to ruin your life. We don't no you we're just trying to save you. Goodluck and please stop and think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): You are too young to be dating, certainly MUCH too young to think about having sex!
He just wants to use you. Dump him and tell him to get lost, "NO, I'm not having sex with you."
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): I think that the fact that u have asked for help corncerning this, means that you arn't redi to have sex yet. it is such a big deal and u can only lose ur virginity once, let it be to someone special, who u love! 3 weeks isnt very long and I think that u have done more than enough in this short space of time. If this boy is tryin to push u into doing things you are not 100% comfortable with, then he is jus not worth it. Ur only 13, so take ur time and i promise u wont regret it!
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Well for starters you are not legally old enough to be having sex so your should be saying 'no'.
Noone can force, push or encourage you to do anything you don't want to do and really I'm surprised you've been doing anything sexual at all.
You should only do something when you are ready to do so and only then, you have all the time in the world to be having sex at 13 there are so many other things you can and should be doing, enjoy your time being 13 and stop trying to grow up to quickly because once you've grown up there is no going back, and if your boyfriend doesn't like it then he isn't worth you losing your virginity to anyways.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (24 September 2006):
 well, 13 is a little young for any sort of sexual activities, i suggest you tell him your not ready, having sex so young isnt a good thing, and how old is he? same age as you?
but if i was you i wouldnt do anything yet, wait till your older and know exactly if you want to, sex is a big step and that step shouldnt be taken at such a young age.
hope you make the right decision, good luck
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