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writes: Please help, i have just started going out with a boy. Im 13 and so is he. i dont know why but whenever i meet up with him we both go really shy. We sort of like a frigid couple, we havent even held hands yet! Llease help me and give me some advice on how i can loosen things up a bit and make us both less shy around each other, thanx
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reader, nadine hillside +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
I have been in the same situation as you but don't worry some people just like to take things slower than everyone else. In a way you should be thankful for this because you know he isn't using you, being pushy and trying to make you do things you don't want to.
Just go along with it and don't push him into anything either, that really isn't the best way because you could end up losing him.
Just relax and be patient not everyone is ready to jump into things so if you want to take it slow and when you are both ready go for it but i can see that you both deeply care for eachother so for now leave it at that.
Hope everything works out good luck.
Nadine
xXx xxx
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reader, Mr. Buddy +, writes (18 April 2006):
I am not like the other people really I say grab his hand he wont mind. Also if you really want to kiss i think the easyest way to do it is with a good old game of truth or dare but dont get to carried away =)
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reader, Alexamanoo +, writes (14 April 2006):
I think that yeah, you too are just very respectful towards each other and taking it slow, or maybe you don't know him as well as you could. The obvious answer to this is to try hard to find as much as you can about him.
If you think you know each other well, then all I can say is take the plunge and take the first step, hold hands. Then, when your comfortable with that, try hugging in greetings and goodbyes. Making sure you are not going too fast (take this cautiously) and things will sort itself out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2006): Well the best thing to do is get some alone time with him, i did with my girlfreind she took me into her room and we were chating we were abit shy when i got into here room but now were snogging and evrything she changes infront of me and i tell her my opinion on her clothes we are now starting to touch each other for fun but we now we will never have sex just yet she bent over infront of me and i got a hard on and she unzipped my zipper and started to suck me i got really scared but i just went with it and now were having lots of fun im fingering her and she rubs my dick quite often she even let me slide it in her ass once but then we decided it was time and i started to fuck her now she loves it and she rubs me and kisses me i love to feel her ass once we were kissing and i slid my hands up her skirt and felt her ass i got a boner and she slid it in her mouth i love fucking her its grate
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reader, fire dragon +, writes (14 April 2006):
 i was in your position once. u should take things slowly but not too slowly. if you tell him how you feel and talk about relationships(in general) may help you to get to know yourselves better and maybe start being like a couple. as i already said take tings slowly dont rush.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Hi,
well I'm afraid to say there's no easy answer to this one! Take things slowly. You don't want to rush into a Relationship just because you can. You'll find you're shy because you LIKE him. You know like him, one of the main reasons you go out with him in the first place...
He's probably just as shy as you are and doesn't want you to think him as being too pushy or taking advantage of you. He wants to let you know he cares, which is why he is taking things slowly and treating you with respect. Not just snogging you straight away and dragging you round the back of the bike sheds! Treat him right, and things will be fine.
There is no such thing as a frigid couple. There are just couples that like to take it one step slower than everyone else.
All The Best, Good Luck and Blessed Be!
Phoebe
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