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writes:Hi everybody. I need u guys help. I need to stop jealous for no reason to my boyfriend. We been dating for 4 years and we fight like every week for same reason. That's jealous things. I don't like any girl look at him or talk to him. We have all different kind of story. Like he went to Sub Way and girl told him she like his shirt and ask him to go to club with him. He told me everything. I throw that shirt away. And we fight. Most likely agure. His co worker. I hate all. They look at me like they jealous of me. and my boyfriend told me one of the girl look at him like she want something from him. Like sex. So, I went up and talk to her to stay away from her. She said he has husband and she don't like my bf. And she blame him to made me insecure. I don't know how to stop jealous. Am I too much. When he go to vacation for his town for aweek. OMG. I'm crazy. I thinking of he's sleeping with somebody. Or whatever. Am I sick? I love him so much so I'm so scare of he gonna find someone and leave me or he gonna cheating on me. I can't share with anybody. I want him to be mine. He told me he only love me and he's mine. I think its not enought. How can I stop jealous my mind to stop thinking of stupid thing like he gonna cheat on me.. Please help!!!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 He is feeding your jealously. He's telling you what other girls are saying to him and he knows how you will react. I think you have a very fiery relationship that you both enjoy. If you last a bit longer it may fizzle out and a bit of maturity will settle in. Is there anything else in your life that you do to take your mind off this 'sex god'. I think he loves you but he's building his ego up off the back of your jealousy. Jealousy can destroy relationships if you let it. You sound like you are very insecure, you are worthy of a mans love and you should start believing in yourself. You need to boost your self esteem, you need to know that you are a good woman and he should be thankful of your love. Hope this helps.
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reader, Empressjai +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I agree with SOON567..your bf is feeding your jealousy because he enjoys the thrill it gives him. He likes to tell you about other women just so you can go into a rage which tells him how much power he has over you. That is cruel and wicked. You need to look at why he keeps telling you about all these women if he knows it hurts you - that isnt LOVE.
You need to get a grip and stop stressing out over some guy. Why is he more important to you than you are? Why have you got him on a pedestal like he is the only man alive? You have serious insecurity issues and if he was a truly loving bf he would not upset you with his stupid stories of other women...most of them are lies anyway. You say you dont like him looking at other girls well there are quite a few million women on this earth - what you going to do? kill all of them? Why dont you pluck out his eyes so he will never look at another girl again. See how demented this all sounds.
His coworkers are not jealous of you they pity you. His coworker told you it was your bf that makes you insecure. She stated that she doesn't like him..when are you going to wake up and realise that this man is not good for you. All your personal power belongs to him. You have no control over yourself or your actions..you are actually quite dangerous and need to watch yourself or you can wind up in serious trouble. Cut this obsession with your bf and this jealousy that he will have sex with someone else...if he wants to do that i doubt you will leave him anyway as this is the kind of relationship you both have. He triggers you off by telling you some weak story about some "girl" and off you go like a pitbull for the girl's throat. And your rages lets him know that he has full control over you. Natalie you are not a robot but you are acting like one and you may very well wind up in trouble if you dont get your jealous insecurity under control. With a lovely caring partner in your life you would be a totally different person. Your bf is just as insecure bcos he needs his gf to act like a crazy woman in order for him to feel good about himself. You both need to go see a counsellor or a therapist and sort yourselves out.
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reader, samyum  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Hey there I know just how you feel been there done that
I know you wanted a guy to help you but sorry Im not..
It all comes back to self esteem you have to tell your self & believe in your self you are beautiful inside & out find all those beautiful qualities and TELL yourself all the time
We all have them you know
Jealousy is one of the biggest turn offs
We are who we are but dont throw your problem onto him your lucky he has stayed with you for 4 years actually
LOVE yourself if you dont..how can you expect anyone else to
Change what needs to be changed if it makes you feel great about your self
Trust me on this do it for a week tell yourself ..try it
Good luck,hope this helps
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