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writes:This guy I met I think just wanted me for sex. We had some nice times around the resort and I did fancy him but i didnt have sex becasue I wanted to hold back which was a bit stupid -as the time soon came to an end. I am sorry now I hurt the guy and his feelings damagedhe kept saying he wished he was better looking. Although to me he was ok. The trouble is he kept saying I think youre romantic-which indicated to me it would be raw sex with no emotion. I do like a bit of set the sceneI wish I could change I have always had a reputation for being hard to get then blokes dont bother to ask me out becasue they have heard they arent going to get anything!!! of course they would get something after awhile but I do hold back - I cant change-how can I let guys knwo I am interested but dont want to give out straight away. I have had one or two guys in the past and HAVE given out then when we broke up they said "always hold back as long as you can" so do what do I do please? I dont want to be on my own forever
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your sound advice-=looks as if I did the right thing as you say there are many easy lays its nice to be soemthing a bit special isnt it+ its like designer clothes if they are too cheap easy to get ex[pensive and they have to "pay" thanks
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reader, hollydawn +, writes (25 July 2008):
hi i think the guys are totaly right buy saying hold back. i think if someone likes you enought then it wouldn't matter how long they hade to wait, TRUST ME. i think alot of the time that is what men are trying to get at (p...y), so i think that it's best to make them try to earn it. and plus men love a challenge, and what more than a chalenge than to make them beg. i think aswell that if a man didnt like me enougth to wait then how much do they like me anyway, and if they dont like me that much then there not worht me.
GOOD Luck
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reader, SCK791  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 Well first of all, if you don't want to be alone forever i suggest trying not to attract guys that just want you for sex. The playing hard to get act instigates this, which i know you don't want to look easy either but just act natural, if someone interests you, act interested, not too eager and not too distant, if you just act like yourself you'll meet the right type of guy and it's good that your holding back, with all the diseases spreading around the world you don't want to just put out with every guy you meet. You really want to get to know someone before getting to sex, and i know in today's society everyone and everything is promoting sex, but try to get past it. Honestly if you meet someone you really like, I would tell him upfront what concerns you and if he's the right guy he'll understand.
Anyway good luck with everything,
I hope you meet the guy that will keep you from being alone forever
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reader, Sputnixx +, writes (24 July 2008):
Listen, if a guy wouldn't be interested or wouldn't pursue you because he thought he couldn't 'get any' easily or right away.. CONGRATS! That's a good thing! The type of guys you are avoiding when you have that reputation is the type of guy you want to be avoiding. Sadly... that's a large group of guys.. at least the guys out there who are more likely to approach you.
I think it's important that you figure out (or maybe you already know) what you want out of men and a relationship. & there is a lot more to a relationship than sex obviously. If a man is serious about you he's not just thinking about you in that way.. although I'm sure you know that.
If I were you... I would make sure to always be very confident and open with a man you might be interested in. The whole beginning stage of getting to know each other before sex is a wonderful, beautiful thing. Have sex when you want to and when you feel comfortable. I wouldn't change how you are sexually.. but if you are not going to have sex right away (which I think is a good thing!) you want to make sure you aren't putting up other walls... like emotional walls. That combined with the 'no sex' wall might be a little much for a man to get through and feel comfortable. But if you try to be open and slightly vulnerable to a man he should feel just fine without the sex ... until you want to take it there at least.
OK! There's my 2 cents! lol
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