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writes:I don't know if I'm thinking to deep or if other people feel this way to, but some times i feel a little bit like an outside, like a soul level like i don't fit in. I can get on pretty well with people and i don't do a'lot to offend anyone, but I've always felt like a bit of an outsider. I've never really had a ton of friends and i do feel lonely sometimes.can anyone shed any light on this please because I'm feeling a bit low in myself Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for the posts. I think i just hit a bit of a low point, earlier this evening.
Well i can get along well with most people, because i don't really give them a reason not to. I just have a feeling deep down of indiffrence, to others and I haven't really met many people like myself. Although, i do realise and appreciate the fact, that were all, unique, indifiduals in are own right. I just feel a bit like an outcast, like i'm not on most peoples wave length.
I frew my daughter a first birthday party, last Novemeber and invited all of my friends. Not one of my friends turned up, and half if them, never even had the decency to let me know and appologise (even thought they all said they would come) but hey, it's past and i've learned my life lesson from that. So i can understand the post about the school, lile i can understand with my own situation, that majority of my friends didn't have any respect for me.
I don't want to go off track but, in relevence to the post to my answer, i decided to draw a posative, upon my negative experiance and decided to scrap all my friends, that don't mean anything to me so i have harldy anyone to talk to in my life and the person i do have is busy with a new baby, so i was feeling upset and lonely. Hence the reason for this help question on dear cupid.
Thanks for the responce
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reader, No-suger-coating +, writes (17 August 2011):
 Dont worry to much about it,at school the loud girls didnt like me as i was quiet , the ignorant stupid girls didnt like me as i was incredably bright for my age, the other girls hated the fact that the boys gave me so much attention and then the black girls gave me alot of grief about liking the white boys (saying i was trying to be white myself)im 29 now, i run a couple of shops and businesses, im happily married and we live quite well,but as per expected none of my school mate stayed intouch with me i probably have (not including my husband whos my best friend) about 2 genuine friends, one a guy and one a girl.i try very hard not to brood on it and get fixated on it- i look around my achievements and say to myself you cant be liked by everyone girl, no one can have it all- you live well and you have an amazing husband , so do you really need a massive group of girlie friends???my advic to you is dont beat yourself up over it, alot of people go threw what you are going threw, dont feel that you are an outsider 'everyone' in the world is unique in their own right.If it really bothers you though there are so many friendship sites/forums/groups etc out there these days-check some out that interest you and get intouch with a few people that share your hobbies im sure you will find being proactive will give you the confidance you need to gain a following.Good luck i wish you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): I know the feeling. Don't worry , I feel like that sometimes too. Its like; I have friends, and a partner and family butI dont feel like I'm really part of anything. As if that at some basic, fundamental level I dont really belong.
I dont know why we feel like that, all I can tell you is that I do.
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