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*lorida Liz
writes:I have a step daughter of whom I love an adore. She is 10 years old and I have been in her life since she was 3. She visits her father and I on weekends or anytime she wishes. She has 3 sisters from her mother and step father. My problem is 2 of the sisters often want to have sleepovers, which occassionally is fine. I was reluctant at first but decided to bear with it and make the best of it all. I do find myself tested by this when it occurs too often. Recently the mother is going through a bad seperation from the father and the father does not want to have his own children for the weekends. So, what happened this week was that the mother had an out of town emergency of which she took the youngest child but asked us to watch the 2 older ones for 4 days. When they arrived they brought their puppy...to my suprize! The oldest sister of 13, refuses to respect the rules of my home and blantenly tells me no when I ask her to clean up after herself and now their dog. My husband and I had a talk with her but she still refuses to aknowledge or respect us. To what point do I have to deal or accept this. Am I wrong for telling her if she can not respect me she is no longer invited as a guest in our home. I honestly do not wish to deal with her children. I love my step-daughter and do not want to cause friction with her. Where does one draw the line? Reply to this Question
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 You need to have a family meeting, prior to this draw up a list of house rules and during the meeting tell everyone the rules and explain anything they aren't clear on. Answer any questions they may have and tell them that if they do not obey the rules tey are not allowed in your home! Tell them why the rules are important to you, and tell them it will help their sleepovers at your home run mpre smoothly. X
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