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writes:I actually prefer masturbating than having sex with my girlfriend.Why? Because she's never in the mood, and when she is she always gets tired fast, breathless and pain in her stomach. (She's not overweight and my penis is only 7" long and 6" girth so I don't know why she gets tired or her stomach hurts) Why? Because even though she agreed to go down on me only if I wear a condom (She said: "I just hate all the fluids that come out of your penis" and so I said ok, I'll wear one so that way you don't feel anything. (I won't either, but it's better than nothing.)) she's only done it like 2 or 3 times since then, and it's been months!So I just masturbate, and I never really ask for sex anymore, or BJs. But the thing is, I want it! And now she thinks that because I never ask for it we don't have to do it anymore...! I've been with her for 2 years, and even though I sounded like I don't love her, I do, I really do, and it's why I never think of leaving her, cuz I know I couldn't live without her, and she loves me back, a lot.I just wanna know what I can do to get over this situation. Please, help.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 It sounds like she doesn't like to give oral sex, and that is fine. It also sounds like she doesn't like to have sex with you at all, and that could be fine if you were happy with it. I think you are not, or you wouldn't be here telling us about it. I also think that, since you weren't getting "no satisfaction" (à la Rolling Stones) and that is why you went to your little corner and began to "prefer" masturbation.
This is not OK. But, only you can tell whether you will ask your woman what the matter is, because you need some "satisfaction", or you will have to think whether to live with her like that or leave.
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reader, Nime  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Is your girlfriend on hormonal birth control? That can have a lot to do with it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Ok it should not only be you that is wanting to have sex in a relationship but also your girlfriend, she should also be wanting sex, you are a young couple and the physical side of the relationship is meant to be the best part at your age.
Ok so as for blow jobs many girls dont like doing this so i guess you just need to respect her wishes on this and leave it at that. Have you tried pleasuring her by going down on her or fingering her? Maybe you should think of that it might get her eroused.
Is she active? she is obviously getting tired because she is not getting enough exercise, this is nothing to do with her weight its about ehr fitness level and its ovbiously very low if she cant last long, but she doesnt need to use a lot of energy you can go on top or enter her from behind try many different positions. As for her getting out of breath this is normal through sex. Ok as for the pain in her stomach, your penis is above average in length and girth therefore it is possible that you are hitting her cervix and this is causing the pain so dont enter her to deep and see if that helps and dont go to hard. if she is still sore i think it would be a good idea if she visited a doctor. goodluck.
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