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writes:i dnt think my new girlfriend cares about me. what do u think?today me and my girlfriend was down town and i met her mom for the first time. her mom turned around and said " well who r u then " i said " i'm the boyfriend the pretty one " her mom turned around and said " who told u that rubbish? " now i know im not dead sexy like most but im not ugly i dnt care what anyone says i've been compared to eminem on more than once. so i'm not ugly.and my girlfriend didn't defend me she just laffed i took the insult as a joke but i was thinking my girlfriend thinks shes the sexiest one out of us both and i know she not. ok back 2 my problem tonight i said 2 my girlfriend " i've booked a driveing lessions i'm on my way to becomeing a driver " my girl respond saying " whatever " now my family who i hate and they hate me will say " good luck or well done " i was exceptin a lil something from my girl.what do u think does she care about me yes or no?i asked my girl does she care about me she responded with " if u think i dnt care about u think that i dnt care " any help would be great Reply to this Question
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reader, chachacha +, writes (19 April 2007):
It sounds to me like your girlfriend has a strange communication style, which she probably got from her mother -
Most mothers on bumping into their daughter with a chap wouldn't need to say "who are you then?" because the daughter would already have said "mum, I'd like you to meet X" - so between mother & daughter they're probably not that great with conversation
It was a bit weird of you to say "the pretty one" in response, so you kind of asked for the response "who told you that?", but it does give a bit more evidence of the mother being a bit cheeky, not that smooth when it comes to conversation. A nice reply for the mother to have given would have been "oh, yes!" or else just say "hello, nice to meet you X".
So the daughter probably has the same style as her mother.
What you need to decide is whether you like your girlfriend or not.
The fact that she didn't share your enthusiasm about your first driving lesson doesn't mean that she doesn't care for you - maybe she was worrying about something, or maybe she thinks it unremarkable. You wanted her to say "good luck" but she's not there just to say to you things that you want said - you can write a computer program to do that.
It sounds a little like you think your girlfriend is just there for you - maybe you're a little self centred and have a big need for reassurance - maybe that's why you said "the pretty one". Anyway, those are your issues, that you would need to deal with whoever you go out with.
You are spending time with another individual, with her own needs and style, and she will say what she likes, and you have to decide whether you like her or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): I think she does care about u she's just shy!She doesn't know wat 2 say 2 u as she is embarrassed or scared she'll lose u!This is the most likely problem so 2 sort it out U need 2 make a conversation and an easy subject that she can talk about.
Hope this helps!x
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reader, ragdoll +, writes (19 April 2007):
 i definitely think she doesnt care about you. if she did, she'd also care about the little things you care about, like that driving lesson you took, even if it's totally boring news. if you feel hurt by her all thye time, and i totally think you do, then she probably doesnt care about your feelings at all. just dump her and get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): first of all there shouldnt be the "sexy" on in the relationship thats a load of rubbish and with what she said I think shes just cheeky but if your not happy in this relationship then get out simple as that
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