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writes:Dear Cupid Readers,I am 18 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is 24 years old and we both have had one previous sex partner. Our relationship has started to spiral downwards because I am unable to orgasm. I actually have no idea what it feels like. We have tried everything and I bought a vibrator today and still nothing. I don't know what I should do. It has become a huge problem and it could ruin our relationship. Should I go to a sex therapist or ask my OB/GYN or what? I have asked many girls their advise and still nothing. Someone please help! Any advise will be greatly appreciated.
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reader, sommerslover +, writes (14 December 2008):
 That is an orgasm. Your body tenses up and you feel a rush of relief, and your vagina gets alot wetter...if that happens, thats an orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionReplying to sommerslover: yes I have tried with my hands and I do know where my clit is. When I do that it seems to work better than anything else but I still don't know if I am having an orgasm, it reaches the point where after some time my whole body starts to tingle and I can't really do it anymore so I just stop and I am not sure if that is an orgasm or not. I plan on asking my doctor when I finally get the appointment but still I am not sure what to do. My boyfriend thinks that I won't open up to him but I don't think that is true because the tingling feeling I get by myself, I can get with him and why wouldn't I beable to open up to myself. HELP!!
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reader, sommerslover +, writes (13 December 2008):
It sounds like you are trying too hard to have an orgasm. As a result, you stress too much about it and can't relax and have an orgasm. Have you ever tried using your fingers on your clitoris ? Do you know where your clitoris is ? You should learn what your body enjoys on your own. In your own private time, you should relax on your bed, find your clitoris and rub it with your fingers. Be sure your fingers are wet. Your clitoris is at the top of youer vagina under a small flap of skin. If you pull that flap up, you will expose it. If you rub it enough, you might be able to have an orgasm.
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reader, piggytoes1818 +, writes (13 December 2008):
Ask your doctor, they would know the most!
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reader, bellasmommy33 +, writes (13 December 2008):
Believe it or not, even alot of older women havent had and orgasm, and 80 percent of women have a hard time having an orgasm with just sex. I for one cant have an orgasm with sex, i have to be touched (with fingers or tongue or vibrator) down there. ANYWAY, nothing is wrong with you. It will happen someday. :)
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