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female
age
36-40,
*6yearslater
writes:Ok so I have not even been married for a year...and we are already separted...When I left the house it wasn't supposed to be forever it was only to try and push him to grow up we are only in our early 20's however I am older than my years..When we became married in December of 08 it was because my husband needed someone to help him pay the bills and also someone to help take care of his child..because we had already decided to get married we thought what the heck we might as well move the date up a little it couldn't hurt anything. Well after moving in together I realized how irresponsible he is and how I had to be the husband and the wife/the mother and the father. After making several attempts and begging him to do better I finally begin to fall into a depression...This was when I knew I needed to change..I moved out and got my own place...On even a friend of mine needed a place to stay because he and his wife were having problems, I told him of course he could stay at my house..My husband popped up at my house the same night and thought I'd been cheating..although I promised I hadn't. He forgave me several times but now he is saying that we are just over because he can't trust me and he doesn't believe that I didn't sleep with this person. I dont know what to do..do i just let it go or try???
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reader, p2dafreakinj  +, writes (21 September 2009):
I agree with almost every word CaringGuy said.
The only sentence I disagree with is "This relationship SOUNDS completely doomed."...I believe it IS completely doomed.
Unless he can change and start being responsible and actually trust you, things will just get worse.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 September 2009):
This guy isn't right for you. It sounds like you got married for all the wrong reasons. You shouldn't be taking on all this burdon. I have to be honest, given that he doesnt' trust you and won't belive you, and given that he is wholly irresponsible, and to top it off you've been married just a year and have already separated, you might be better starting afresh with someone else. This relationship sounds completely doomed. Lots of luck for the future and I hope this helps. x
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