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writes:I don't trust my husband after past events, so I check up on some of the things he does like check the call log and emails on his phone. The other day, I seen that he made a blocked call to a number I didn't recognize. So I googled the number and it was for a prostitute! I was furious especially since he did not come home the previous night. Which is why I checked his phone. He deleted the call off his phone purposely but I know a few tricks to uncover some deleted stuff on the phone. Anyways I should mention that in the past I have sorta proof that he cheated but nothing concrete like catching mid act with somebody. He swears he never ever cheated on me and would never want to. I don't believe that exactly but like I said, I don't have concrete evidence.So I confronted him and he told me that it was his buddy who called him from that number during the middle of the night. And that he missed the call and called the number back and his buddy answered and that he had no idea it was a prostitute. He said to that since his buddy didn't have a phone he used hers (apparently his buddy picks up prostitutes a lot) and that also earlier that night his buddy called from a pay phone at the hotel across the street from where he lives(which I know he does). So after he told me this I said "So why did u delete all the calls then?" he said "bc I didn't want u to get mad that he was calling me bc u don't like him and he's not supposed to be around and I didn't want u to think anything stupid"I told him that I wouldn't get mad if he called u and I seen that u ignored his first call then called back this random number bc u didn't know who it was. U don't have control over other peoples actions. But I am really mad bc u deleted them! If u were doing nothing wrong then u would not have deleted them!! And how do u prove that it wasn't just u calling a prostitute?! I mentioned earlier I know a little tricks to recover some deleted stuff on the phone, I was only arable to in delete the last called made, which was to the prostitute. I could just see the number not anything else. So this means that he can't prove to me that his buddy called at all and that he originally got a call from his buddy from this prostitutes phone number. So it seems like a lot I f crap to me!Now my question. Could he be telling the truth? And just deleted the calls bc he know I hate this guy being around (I have really good reasons for this and why my hubby still talks to him occasionally shocks me)OR is it all a lie and it was him calling this prostitute?? He has told me some ridiculous lies in the past! And done some really questionable things before. This is driving me nuts. Should I believe him or maybe back down but keep my guard up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): Hi there,You are suspicious because of things before. Did he have an affair? If so move on from this marriage. Show him you are worth more and deserve respect. If you accept every cock and bull story he feeds you then he will carry on doing what he likes cos he knows you will put up with it. If it was you who committed an affair do you think he would cry scream and eventually accept and carry on the marraige, I very much doubt it. He woul want a divorce.Go on honey, make the break. This fretting over him is not good for your health.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): You can fact-check his story by: calling his friend and just ask where he was that night, but don't explain why you're asking, dont' give away your motives or the friend might lie as well. Or, call the number yourself and maybe they have records of who their recent customers were?
Could he be telling the truth. Sure he could, but it's unlikely he is. especially since he has a history of lying to you that means that nothing he says anymore can be trusted and if it looks like he's done something then he most probably has.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): There are definitely trust issues to begin with, which is why you even started digging for clues. Either work on trust issues with a professional or leave him, but don't be caught somewhere in between by guessing.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (19 January 2013):
Only he knows if he's telling the truth. Maybe you can ask to talk to his friend? Or call the hooker?
At some point you have to realize what type of person you're married to and either accept it or move on. If you aren't a suspicious person by nature and your instinct tells you he's doing something wrong then he probably is.
By the way him deleting the call logs doesn't mean he's guilty . It's entirely possible he knew you'd get upset even if nothing happened.
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