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writes:I have been married for 40 years to an alcoholic, He quit for 12 years and started drinking again, and he has gotten worse. I should have left him years ago,but I like so many others stayed for my two kids. THis was a bad decision, because for the most important years of their lives they only saw their father drunk. My son has suffered the most from a non father and son relationship. Because I stayed home to raise my kids, I never had a full time job. I am going to be putting in for my retirement at an early age, plus will be also working. My hopes are to sell my home and buy a mobile home and bail out. I am sick of being married to a drunk and non caring cold hearted person. I think I deserve better than this. People tell me why do it at this age, and I say why not. Why should I have to live the rest of my life like this. I want some happiness and piece of mind
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (24 January 2013):
 Darn right forget these drunks and drug addicts in my case. I gotta be quiet, be secrective, be miserable, for them to get their rocks off not anymore. I must battle to I win. You're awesome to stand up for yourself and thats a lot of self respect and I'm trying this out too. It's cost me but it's worth it, even with the negative code talk through strangers and roomates and who ever else. I feel like if I stay then I love it and Im not machoism meaning liking pain and humiliation no go be able to do. Keeping it moving.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): many people who have been married 40 years are terrified of being on their own since they can't remember what it was like to not be part of a couple (no matter how dysfunctional the relationship), that's why they discourage you from leaving. it either threatens their decision to stay in an unhappy long term marriage out of fear, or they honestly cannot comprehend how you can be married that long and not be happy with your spouse. don't listen to them, do what you have to do.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (19 January 2013):
''why not''? there is no reason why not, as you know. just dont let such people stop you from progressing with your life. maybe they are worried that they will be left to pick up after this person, something which you have doubtlessly been doing without even realising it. move on, you deserve better and good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 January 2013):
 Sounds like a plan to me. Go for it. You don't mention your age but I think you deserve some peace of mind at this stage of your life. I'm 60 and I like knowing exactly what to expect when I get home from work each day. Living with a drunk is just not living. You go girl and best. Of luck in your new totally under your control life!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (19 January 2013):
There are single people at any age, your friends are just old fashioned. There is nothing wrong with being single. You will certainly be happier and less stressed out than you are now.
Besides with the advent of the internet people of all ages are able to find love a lot easier than in times past.
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