A
female
age
41-50,
*ranci
writes:Hi everyoneI'm new around here,and need some help on this issues!!I'm due to go to psychologist to get a professional help, but in the mean Time I'd like to share this with you and get different opinions. I've been married for 4 years, and I'm pregnant for the second time.The fact is.my husband doesn't fancy me or better never did, and he did marry me for other reasons but fancy me phisically. I always had a figure to die for ... Most of the times we had sex,I was the one to take initiative,and he is very often tired and turn to his Side and fall asleep very quickly.And when we go out he stare at woman that have totally different look to my look,I always been with guys that adored me and would even notice other woman when we were out on public places, only had eyes for me!!And I used to fell very comfortable on th relationship and I used to be very confident happy with myself and my self esteem always been very high.Now I feel very unhappy on my relationship and what to give a end to it because it isn't health to me and it is killing me slowly, I keep passing all this unhappiness through my blood stream to the babe and I feel that isn't fair to her!! I think that he married me because when we first met , it was a nice and exiting experience, in Brasil I was just 23 and he was 39. And maybe he thought that if didn't happen on that Time it would never happen, and he didn't want to miss that as he always wanted to get marriage and have kids . And the biggest love of his live didn't want to marry him.He kept photos(very rude ones that was very shocking and hurtfully for me to see) of his old girlfriends for all this time, and I discussed it with him many times and he never took action to through them always then I finally after 4 year of marriage did through them always without his concern, he invited withought my approval one of his ex girlfriend which he had a very passionate and sexual relationship with to our wedding and didn't invite a good male friend of his.I just feel that I should go back to Brasil and start a new page of my life with my 2 kids and,"whatever will be will be"But there are two things that stop me from doing it:my son(3) that adores his father and my belives that allows me to divorce only in case of adultery.In fact he nearly had committed on the last Time we went to Brasil to visit my mother, he had arranged to meet up with this girls he meet on yahoo dating, and just didn't meet her because happened me to be in the same place on the day of the date!I wish it had happened so now I would be free to be on my own!!I still love him and love him to bits and he says he loves me but I don't believe that!!! What happens and happened contradicts what he says!! I really, really want to give a end to it because I can't take it any more it is too painful to me even so I still love him from the bott on of my heart.It is very important to say that I don't blame him for anything and don't what you think hes do this things on purpose and think he is a bad person, because he isn't, he is a lovely person, he is a Gentleman,he is very positive, progressive, support our family, helps his and my family and other people, treat every person as human being and have a fantastic heart,I can say that he is a extraordinary person!! As you all aren't emotionally invold on this , what would you say to me?Thanks very much
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reader, muffy  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 ok i didnt read all of it but from what ive heard is that you are too young for him.hes too old for you.if hes staring at other women then hes not interested.hes not being fair to you or the kids.its not right.you need to find a man who is interested in you and your kids so he can support you.tell your husband to kick rocks.kick him to the curb so you still have your dignity.
i hope i helped
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Hi Franci xxxx Ok so From what I can understand, this man doesnt love you nor does he respect you, he doesnt even find you attractive.
He may not have actually slept with another woman (can you be certain of this) But on a mental level he has certainly commited adultery, several times by the sound of it. so Your religious beliefs would allow you o divorce this man. he may be a nice man himself, but he is not nice for or to you.
Gentlemen do not leer at other woman in their wives presence! Nor do they arrange to meet ex girlfriends.
Get rid, and find someone better for you and your family.
As to your son, he is three, he will forgive you xxxxxxxxxxx
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