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writes: I would really like to know if I am asking to much. Recently my stepson was bragging about all the pranks he was doing over at his mothers house and how he had started a prank war.. I told him I am not a fan of Pranks and I told him I did not want him to bring that into our house if his mom allows it there then fine keep it over there.. Well the very night I told him not to do this he went against a direct order and litter the whole front lawn.. I told my husband (his father) that I had just told him not to bring the pranks to our house.. My husband told his son it was funny and he didn't care that he disobeyed me.. Even if I get upset about it my husband says that I am like and 80 year old and can't take a joke.. I explained to him it is not about the prank it is about the fact that you basically told your son it doesn't matter what I say and he can disrespect me.. I am so furious about this and I don't know what do to.. It isn't the first time this has happened either.. I never let my children disrepect him and if they do they are punished immediately. I am just fed up!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): I find that immature on behalf of the father and son. Yes, the father is immature in this regard. Why does he encourage such behavior? There are other ways to joke and have fun. And also why does he not care his own son disobeyed you? To me, thats definite complete disrespect and I feel you here.
Really, I think itd be fair to call in a compromise here with the father. Explain to him that his behavior runs a potential risk to something harmful down the road if its continued. The fact his behavior can be a risk why should his father allow it? Also, if the boy has any younger siblings, what example would he be setting?
Suggest the kid play a video game to carry out his fantasy antics or heck even suggest a gaming system just so he can have something to do with his time that he'd otherwise use to pull these pranks and have him bring it to his moms house to develop a new habit.
The fact the mother and father encourage the behavior is a bad sign and leaves you cornered. I honestly feel if youre disrespected in this way, that could lead to other ways of disrespect by both the father and son, which in my opinion, could be a deal breaker for a divorce.
The father is naive to think his sons behavior is only a joke and maybe perhaps wont lead to larger and potentially more harmful pranks. That is what worries me most and what I feel you dont deserve to be subjected to. My best to you on this being you are a concerned and smart parent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): Sounds like you have extremely high expectations of the kids, set unrealistic rules and then work yourself up when they are broken. Time to relax... Set rules on important stuff that counts and not absurd silly things that make childhood fun. Pick your battles wisely or you'll lose respect from the kids as they grow up....
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