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writes:hi all, have been married 2years and my husband is a doctor. he remains busy most of the time in his works and gives very less time in home. i tried to adjust in this for 2 years but this days its becoming hard for me. my husband is a good man and he loves me also, i love him too, but the most of the times i feel alone in home. over it, i m slowly getting attracted to his friend, who sometimes drops over to say hello. i have tried to divert and i have talked with my husband also to give me time, but he has too much responsibility on him in his work. i know its very wrong to have sex with other men, specially his friend, but what do i do? i slowly falling in to it... i really don't wanna do anything wrong but this days it gets difficult for me....can any 1 help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, taniya +, writes (28 November 2009):
taniya is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanx a lot... for ur suggestion, it was so nice of u all, but u know a i tried my best ... but still i m not so successfull.... i donno if u all understand my situtaon or not.......if any of u can make some time... i want to discuss it with some 1, take cre
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reader, yussuf  +, writes (27 November 2009):
 I say don't venture into cheating. ask yourself how you would feel if you found out that he cheats. you sound like a responsible partner and it will suck if you fall into the statistics of those mindless drones that use such an excuse as a security blanket to cheat on their partners. Marriage isn't easy and i bet you knew about that way before you took the vows. if he was your boyfriend then, i would have understood but he ain't, so please hang in there and everything will work-out fine. what i suggest you do is spend quality time with him. lol! i mean he's still in love with you so all you need to do i spice it up a little, we Males aren't hard to please, all we need is a little bit of eye-candy and that's it. Goodluck and i hope this helps!
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reader, taniya +, writes (27 November 2009):
taniya is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have a job of 5hours already, i use to have some hobbies before but this days i also cant concentrate too much, everything feels dull, my husband comes home at around 2am or 3am and leaves again at 7-8am. i try my best to use the time, i get with him, but he has too much tension in his mind from his work. even when he is home, he is alyas in to paperworks or other stuffs. i tried to divert myself also,... but its not so useful. i fantasize having sex with his friend, or i become a lil flirty with him or other men or allow them to get lil naughty in talks with me. i know this is very wrong, i m guilty from inside, but i donno wat to do, i feel upset about it.
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reader, taniya +, writes (27 November 2009):
taniya is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have a job of 5hours already, i use to have some hobbies before but this days i also cant concentrate too much, everything feels dull, my husband comes home at around 2am or 3am and leaves again at 7-8am. i try my best to use the time, i get with him, but he has too much tension in his mind from his work. even when he is home, he is alyas in to paperworks or other stuffs. i tried to divert myself also,... but its not so useful. i fantasize having sex with his friend, or i become a lil flirty with him or other men or allow them to get lil naughty in talks with me. i know this is very wrong, i m guilty from inside, but i donno wat to do, i feel upset about it.
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reader, LadyCorsair  +, writes (27 November 2009):
 Dear Taniya,Your husband's profession as a doctor remains one of the most stressful jobs there is, so I'm sure his lack of attention is unintentional. I bet he'd love to be at home with you as much as possible.Do you have a job yourself? I imagine it must be quite lonely for you at home by yourself. Maybe a job, or even a class/ hobby would take up some of your time and help with the loneliness.Don't fall in the trap of sleeping with your husband's friend. Your husband will find out and it could be the end of your marriage. If you want things to work out between you and your husband, try making the time you do have together as special as possible... Have a lovely meal waiting for him when he gets home... Buy some sexy lingerie and surprise him! Make sure that every second you spend together is perfect, and hopefully that will help spice things up again.If you've already started something with his friend, it needs to end now. Unless you and his friend intend on having a proper relationship together, and telling your husband, it will only work for a little while. I hope I've helped a bit- it's very hard for a woman in your shoes, and I'm totally on your side!The very best of luck to you,Lady Corsair
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