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writes:My husband cheated on me two years ago.. but since then we have been working through it and trying to move foward.. but in the recent week or so i keep have recurring dreams that hes still cheating on me. in my dream i run into the girl he cheated on me with and she confesses that they are still at it and have never stopped. She apologizes and takes off, i finally get home and i confront my husband and he denies it and says that the girl is lying and is upset he broke it off so quickly and shes just trying to get back at him... i wake up from my dreams upset and pissed off at him and confused.. i just want to know what these dreams mean? and why am i having them two years later out of the blue?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): I remember having dreams like this during my husband's affair. Oh yes, he consoled me and swore up and down that I was his life and that he would never do anything like that. To this day, this remains as one of the most harmful acts he has ever committed. Talk about obliterating trust? Wow.Anyway, my dreams started and then they became very specific as to even who the party(ies) were. After a couple of months of this I began snooping and found out everything. Email accounts... read the emails... you name it. Then found the receipts that corresponded with the 'episodes'.Dreams can be a nagging suspicion and a sign that you still don't trust him... or, like me... they can be literally prophetic. You can only know for certain by ruling out... facts... like being a private investigator. There are ways to monitor computers (keyloggers) as well as phones... Believe me, if you want to know you can know... There are even things called VAR recorders placed into vehicles as well as GPS's on phones. Do whatever you feel you need to do, but rule out cheating before you go along down the pike blaming yourself for not trusting him... Once the trust has been broken it is very important that it be rebuilt...Or, if there is no basis to trust... it is wise to know that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): I don't believe that dreams should be taken literally because our minds naturally jumble things up - for example if you dreamed that you turned into an apple would you place any stock into it???HOWEVER I do think that our dreams have a reason, they show what is weighing on our subconscious mind. It may not have 'meaning' in the fortune-telling sense but it gives an indication about your current state of mind and things that are significant to you even if you're not aware of it.And for this reason alone it is worth paying attention to your dreams especially if they are of a troubling nature. If you dreamed you turned into an apple, it could be because you are becoming increasingly concerned about your health and deciding to eat healthier...or something like that...or it could be because you're trying to plant an apple tree in your garden - the "meaning" of why you had the dream can be trivial or not. It just reflects what is in your mind and in your subconscious. Your husband's infidelity is obvious NOT a trivial thing to you. People often have recurring dreams about deeply troubling issues or events. It may not "mean" anything in the fortune-telling sense except that the issue still troubles you, that's all.Why would you dream about this now again after 2 years? Could it be the 'anniversary' of when you found out or something similar? Or did you recently get exposed to the topic of infidelity for example while watching a TV show in which infidelity is part of the plot line? these things can trigger long-buried deep feelings.Another thing could be that maybe you are starting to get suspicious or insecure again. And this is triggering your subconscious feelings resulting in the dreams. In that case, try to examine your recent feelings, do you have reason to be feeling insecure recently?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): Dreams mean very little, but memories of traumatic things stick with us and we dream about them.
Yes, you are pissed off at him, yes you have the right to be, yes this is normal at this point in time (2 years out).
Cheating is TRAUMATIC to the person it is done to at the very least.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (21 December 2010):
 I'm a great believer in dreams and do believe they have meaning. Your subconcious is picking up on some different behaviour from your husband and maybe that's how you are thinking about it in your dreams. I always say to married people, go on your gut reaction with your thoughts and feelings because people who are close can be very psychic. Keep a close watch on y our husband for now and see if he is acting suspiciously or out of character before you broach the subject. You may never forget what he did, you probably will never trust him again but you need to make sure that you can move forward and forgive him if he really wants to try again.
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