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writes:I have been married for 2 years and recently seperated because he cares and does more for his family than me. We lived next door and all they had to do was call and he would run no matter what we were doing or planning takes care of their house and etc befor his own. We went to counseling for a short time but when it was apparrent that he needed to put some restrictions on their needs/wants he got angryso we just stopped going. I begged him to sell the house but was not in the cards so I left and bought a place of my own after months of looking with him helping me becausehe was going to be there too and needed to like it too. When I moved out he was supposed to be spending a few nights all I get is 1 day a week work is too busy, hes too tired, I only live 15 minutes away. He told me whenI left he would help me out financially but its very minimal my heart is breaking more every day and all I get is I"m sorry...He was married several times before and I had a great marriage but was widowed 4 years ago.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 March 2011):
 No wonder his past marriages didn't work out.
I agree with C Grant. You have two choices, be a part of his family or move on.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 His family is his family, he can't change that. As his wife you should be by his side helping him in anyway you can. You cannot ask a person to choose over their family and another person, it will always be the family.
What family are you talking about? Children? Parents? What?
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 His parent are getting up there in age, of course they need his help more right now. But they aren't going to be around forever, so why can't you just be more patient and understanding with him in the meantime?
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 You didn't realize that you were marrying not just him but his family. And he is more committed to his family than you. Your choice is to integrate into his family or to walk away.
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