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writes:Normally on here you hear about partners who are addicted to World of Warcraft/WoW. I'm 35, he's 32.Well, this one's different; my partner (husband actually)'s addicted to AutoCAD. Is this odd, considering that it borders on workaholism [see below]? It's not a new thing, he did it in his previous job, after a promotion up the ranks, he'd worked in the same firm since he was 21. However, he was made redundant when the department told him there were no higher opportunities within that department of the firm; nowhere else in his previous employer dealt with it. He's learnt AutoCAD for years on various Windows systems in his past jobs, and he enjoyed doing them, whatever they were.Now, though he's spending all day on the PC learning everything he can about AutoCAD that he didn't get taught in his previous job. Unlike other posts on here, where people with WoW addiction ignore work/study etc., well, at least he's making an effort to look for a job but hasn't managed to find anything. They think he's either too old or too overqualified for it.He is now looking into finding a new job involving something called Transoft (an AutoCAD add-on for creating road signs) and has applied for two jobs, but hasn't heard back.However, I do worry about him; the amount of effort he's putting into his own personal education and jobsearch has left him with no energy for sex towards me, and it feels as bad as living with someone who's addicted to WoW or online gaming or even Facebook for that matter.He's not necessarily rude or ignorant, far from it, just seems stressed.I want to help him, and he feels he needs help, but doesn't know how to deal with it, says the enormity of the situation is worrying him, so what can I do to help him as he wants help, he's said?
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (10 September 2013):
 He's probably worried about paying the bills now that he's without work, and this is his route for getting back into work.
Have you talked to him about it?
Praise him in his efforts, but tell him you need affection and sex!
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (7 September 2013):
 Book an appointment with a therapist. I don't think it's such a bad thing that he is working on improving his skills. I think he is stressed about being unemployed, and let's face it, it is a very tough market out there for people seeking employment. The competition is unbelievable. He is trying to gain a competitive edge by teaching himself these new skills. Sex is probably the last thing on his mind right now. As soon as he secures employment I'm sure the strain will lessen. I think therapy will help him to be less hard on himself. It sounds like he's a perfectionist.
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