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female
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anonymous
writes:First things first, I'm lesbian. My ex and I broke up around February 2013, I met another woman who was my rebound for 3mos to help me cope. That ended with the police being involved out of the arms of one psycho into the arms of another psycho. Yikes. Throughout the rebound relationship I was having sex with my ex gf. My ex desperately tried to get me back from my rebound and one of her tricks were sex.I eventually left the rebound and wanted to rekindle my flame with my ex. Except now she wasn't ready. So two months pass by and IM waiting on her to become ready and in the meantime we are having sex. So I cut off sex and waited. I even found out more dirt about what she did during our relationship, I still tried to date her and forgive it. Then she does what she commonly do, ignores my text messages, don't return my phone calls and have me sad n lonely. I got completely tired of it and sent her a text saying I won't wait any longer and I accept that we are finished. I told her I am moving on to gain my happiness. She texted goodbye. That was 9/1 Now she text me in a rant calling me stupid, a bitch and ugly. It really has gotten to me. I never thought someone I loved more than my own family would turn on me so viscously. She text me from a different number since I wasn't responding to her IM messages and phone calls and text. She played at first like she knew me from my past then gave me a false name and when I said I don't know u but bye now she went on her rant. My self esteem is shattered I always felt like I wasn't enough for her bc she would not call or text days at a time. And to read those words she text confirms what she truly thought of me. I feel so worthless. Sad part is I'm very attractive never been call ugly a day in my life, but it just defeats me that someone I love, n yes I still love her would hurt me so deep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): First of all, rebounding after a breakup is "psycho." You are placing a third-party in the middle of your drama. Playing back and forth between people; got you what you deserved.
The player got played.
Somehow, I don't think you learned anything at all. Your little game backfired; you thought you had it all under control. You had one on the side, while you waited for the other. Breakups should end permanently. Otherwise; you two drama-queens were just competing to see who could out-bitch the other. It has absolutely nothing to do with love.
Nothing!!!
Your feelings are hurt? You're feeling your karma.
Now that you've learned your lesson. Cut all ties with both of your "psycho" playmates. I'm not buying into your little pity-party.
The whole drama between all of you revolved around sex; and had little to do with feelings. You invited all the anger directed at you, by your spiteful and narcissistic behavior. It's all about you.
Now end that back and forth cycle between you and your ex.
Get your act together and just stay single. You aren't ready for a relationship with anyone. You just like the concept of a relationship; but you'll never maintain a successful one; until you learn to leave out the drama, and how to commit.
I'm a gay man. I've seen all the games. You're not a bad person, you just need to mend your ways; and not point fingers. That's why your ex is waging war. She's calling you out. Don't play the victim; girlfriend!
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