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36-40,
*ubblygirl
writes:How do I get over this guy who just wants me for sex?I fell hard for him and he lead me on with dates and gifts and texting. I found out he was seeing two other girls at the same time and when he got into a relationship over the summer, he cheated on her after one month. He barely talks to me now and its hard cause I want to see him sooo bad! I still have feelings for him but I want to move on. I feel like I didnt get what I deserved and Im feeling burnt over it.Any ideas so I can stop obsessing and beating myself up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Personally, i know the feeling. Your in two minds, one side craving his attention and wanting him to make effort..and the rational side to move on.
I know its easier said than done..but there are better guys out there who will give u the attention you deserve. Try meeting some new people, go socialising and get your self esteem up. Being busy also helps you move on, so you dont dwell on what could have been.
I missed and was going crazy for this guy, yet now i think i had an ideal version of him which i was yearning for. If hes not going to give you the respect you deserve, or let you know where you stand then hes not worth it.
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reader, lovesalias  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Hi Hun, Don't beat your self up! I am sure you are a beautiful, amazing, intellectual young woman that any man would be lucky to have. You need to look at the situation and break it down. Ask your self Why you allow this. What is it about him that you like. I think you are clinging to the hope that he will change and that all the words he said and the images he created in your mind while you were together will become reality because he made it seem so real. Its not him necessarily that you are intereseted in. It is the way you feel when you are or were with him. Don't be a door mat for him that will allow him to walk all over him. Don't be his sex kitten that he can call on whenever he is lonely if you are looking for something in the way of a commitment. Next time he calls you in the middle of the night express that you have real feelings and unless he is ready to commit to you and you alone you will not be an available lay over...someone he can lay over until he gets into his next relationship. You be strong and occupy yourself with things to keep your mind off of him. You will do fine and eventually you will move on. Just remember it takes time and time heals all things but if you keep letting him into your heart over and over again you are not allowing your heart to heal you are only allowing him to break it over and over again. I wish you all the luck. I hope this helps!
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