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writes:Hello just a quick question my son's father whom I am just starting to get over wnts to come back because his life sucks, he thought the grass was greener on the other side, but it wasn't. Me and my family are not getting along, I don't really have a big family, so this hurts. But I am thinking about taking my son father back even though he left me and my son with nothing, I just want to feel attached to something, I just want to feel loved. I want a stable environment for me and my son. I want a family of my own, will this all be a disaster. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): Hunny,
He left you now he wants to come back as he is miserable with his life, Not because he has made a terrible mistake and that he loves you and he is sorry for putting you through all this, How can you be sure that he wont go again, He has no commitment to his child or to you.
I wouldnt want him back untill he agreed to counselling and you do this while living apart so as to see how much he really is willing to put into your family.
You will soon no if he is serious you deserve to be treated with respect and love and if he cant show that he is willing to give you what you want (COUNSELLING) Then he only wants to come back as a way out of what ever situation he has got himself into now.
Dont make any quick decitions hunny you have been hurt already, I no you want good things for your son and you need love and stability just make sure his intentions of coming home are the right ones. YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): It is worth getting back together as you have a child. However, you have so much to risk. You say you had started to move on, this will make that step even more harder if he leaves again as you have worked so hard to get to where you are now. He may just be feeling bitter with the fact that his new relationship broke down. He is dealing with another loss and may want to use you to ease that pain for a little while and there is no garantee that he will stay when he feels much better. You need to show your son that this sort of behaviour is not o.k. You need to get a back bone and show your partner that is aint that easy to return as and when he feels like it. If he REALLY wants to be back with you he will show you and your son in more ways than this. You need to make him fight for you. Otherwise it will be so easy for him to flutter in and out of your life. Good luck.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (21 November 2007):
 Hi,
It look like you want him back for the wrong reasons. You et through a lot of stress when he abandoned you before, now he has faced the reality of running away with his bit on the side and realises the stability at home is the easier option.
If he just wants to come back because he's out of options, what makes you think he won't run away again at the first opportunity?
You need assurances from him over his behaviour before you put both yourself and your son through this again. Remember if he runs away again its not only you who suffers but your son as well, what type of role model is this jerk for your son?
All the best and good luck.
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