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writes:hey,i need help so badly.my girlfriend...well ex girlfriend now...completely broke my heart about 3 weeks ago. i just can't get over it. we are still very good friends but im just not the same as i used to be. im no longer happy.i feel SO down/depressed n screwed up constantly..its drivin me crazy.because of tht im bein a complete **** n im slowly losing my friends. i just dont know what to do anymore i really dont.it jus makes me not want to live. and it makes me so angry wiv myself i hate it so much. and i hate tellin my ex any of my problems because it just puts her off me and she always says she doesn't know what to say or what to do. please help me.i can't believe that i'm only 16 and i'm going out of my mind.thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): I really dont think you should talk to your Ex about any of this and the best thing to do would be to put some distance between you and her at the moment!
Believe me I went through the same thing a few months back!
You need some time to be upset and grieve for the relationship youve lost, you nead to distance yourself from her and all that reminds you of her, although you may feel like clinging on to things from the past, you need to try to move on.
It does take a long time, no matter your age. Your true and best friends should be able to see your situation and be able to understand what your going through, Im sure you wont have lost them for good.
I think the best thing to try is to put on a slight act, if you start to act possitive, and act as though you are not so down your start to eventually feel that way for real, try changing stuff, a new hair style, new bedroom, joing a gym - get super fit anything to make a change and to move things on a bit. I even moved house at the end of my 5year relationship - gave me something to think about other than the ex if nothing else!
It will take time to truely move on and you dont have to straight away, but do try, and until you feel strong enough to take a step foreward from your sadness, be with your friends and family, dont push them away, they WILL help you.
There is help out there if you feel you cant talk to the people you are close to. people like the Samaritans are avaliable 24/7 and can be contacted by email as well as by phone.
all the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): Therapy is the key. Some places offer it for free.
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