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writes:You see, my husband has a type A personality and generally lives and breaths new ways to make money. Sex is my call 99% of the time and when we do get into it in the bedroom he always throws off this (yeah come n get it) vibe, which is the reason I'm avoiding it all together these days as it's becoming a major turn off. Creepy as it sounds I get the feeling sometimes that because he's such a good provider, It gives him the authority to overwhelm me with obligation.Iv' e learned that showing appreciation/love is extremely important in a relationship but he doesn't seem to get it. He has a heart of gold and I honestly believe he has no idea how much I hurt inside. I discussed going our separate ways for a while and told him that I'm not out to change him but instead to do us both a favor 'cause this will only continue as long we stay together.Nothing would make me happier than to spend the rest of my life with him and the only hope I have left is that he still doesn't understand why I need his attention (he would never hurt me this much if I thought he meant it.) I told him that I wish there were a book that he could read that explained what I was going through and how much he's hurting me plus the chain reaction it's setting off. His father told him recently ... "She doesn't know how lucky she is" Sheesh ... he hasn't got a clue!Does anyone know of such a book? I'll all ears for advice too.
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reader, diesel185  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Hi ... not that i'm giving advice but i'm going through the exact same thing with my partner. I Just dont know what to do either ... its so hard because when you love someone you will do anything for them, and like you and i you think why cant they give you that little bit of affection back???
I'm trying to come to terms with my situation, but i just dont know what to do. Stay, Leave. Time will tell. But i just wanted to let you know that i know exactly what your going through
take care
diesel 185 x
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reader, eddie  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Sometimes people need a wake up call. Tell him again. Go see a therapist, as a couple. Get another ear to hear your problems, not family though. If nothing else works, tell him how much youlove him but your leaving. Tell him your giving him some time to decide if you're worth the effort. DO NOT go looking for someone else. If you do, he'll say that was the reason you left in the first place.
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reader, Nikita +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Well, there's plenty of books that I can suggest. here are a few that may help.
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, by John Gray.
Cultivating Female sexual Energy, by Mantax Chia.
The sex starved Marraige, by Michele Warner.
Are you the One for me, by Barbara de Angleis.
There's also plenty of websites you could go on for advice too. just google and have a look but one is called, 'InsideaGuysMind. com.
I would suggest that you sit him down when he's in a relaxed frame of mind and talk to him. Tell him exactly how you are feeling and how hurt you are that he doesnt show you much attention. If as you say he doesnt realise then you have to make him see, open his eyes to your emotions. Good luck x
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