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writes:hi how would i be able to tell if my fwb (a man) wanted more im not sure because i like him but keep on getting mixed signals off him so im very confused and not sure what to do i can.t ask him cos i don,t want to make a fool of myself if he doesnt feel the same in what ways would he be acting if he wanted more thank you x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): When you accept, and get into these fwb (knock off,free pussy,nsa sex etc),that is all that is ever understood of you. Maybe its time to value yourself more and stop it where it is before a reputation catches hold of you.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Well quite simply - a man who wants more doesnt have FWB relationships. So the fact you are just his FWB means he doesnt want anything more from you.
Basically if you have sex with him quickly after meeting and get into a FWB, he is never going to see you as more than just a FWB. The fact that you have developed feelings for him means that this FWB isnt working because you want more than friendship from him.
So it is your choice what you do next. You can either tell him you like him and want more than a FWB. Or you can end it and walk away because you cant carry on like this, it will only keep on hurting you and the situation will get more complicated.
So many women fall into this same trap - you think you can just have sex with a guy and an FWB sounds like fun, when actually you want a relationship and you are hoping that the more he has sex with you, the more he will like you and eventually will ask you to be his girlfriend.
Make sure you learn this one very valuable lesson - FWB's DONT turn into real relationships. The guy only wants you for sex, and when he finds out you have feelings for him, he moves on. When you agree to a FWB, you agree to no strings attached sex. When you add the strings (i.e. your feelings) - he runs away.
So if you want a relationship, DONT have FWB's! If you are happy just to have sex with a guy, then keep it as sex and dont let your feelings get out of control.
It really is that simple - you have to either act like a man and dont get attached when having sex, or be clear from the start that you want more than sex and dont give it away so easily.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): Hi, firstly the mixed signals may be to keep you believing you may 1 day be an item. He knows he's onto a good set up as it is and may not want to lose that. Is this a fwb thing to you? At this moment it appears you are being used.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): I dont think he would act in any way,he would suggest. It would be better not building hope at this stage,unless he tells you. He`s more than likely happy with sex and freedom in one.
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