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writes:My problem is embarrassing but I need help and don't know where to get it from. Apologies if the content is shocking, it's not explicit but it needs to be mentioned so you can understand my problem.On Thursday I got a phone call off my husband's boss about his behaviour in work. He claims my husband's behaviour has been getting more and more bizarre.His boss told me he'd seen my husband stripping off nude at work and running around the office nude, and that he'd seen my husband picking a fight with a co-worker which resulted in him going to hospital, and that my husband had stripped a male co-worker to his underwear and then filmed it on his mobile phone. His boss also told me that there were more allegations of behaviour as serious as this, including disrupting a board meeting by walking past the room in just his boxer shorts and mooning the board members. The boss also told me that he was watching pornography in company time, on company TV/DVD/video recorders, when he should have been working. The boss said it was explicit (I won't go into the full details here, because the content is too shocking to repeat, although the content wasn't illegal, the boss said)He told me that my husband is suspended for 6 weeks while he investigates the situation.I tried confronting my husband about this, but he just refuses to discuss it and sits around the house in his pants shouting "Whoo-hoo! Whoo-hoo! Oh, yeah, I'm the man" and drinking cider excessively.I've tried and tried discussing it, but to no avail, my husband just acts even worse. I feel like I'm living with a kid.I feel disappointed with my husband and embarrassed about this problem. I don't know how to cope with it.If that wasn't bad enough, I have a 4-year-old son as well who's in primary school.How will I ever deal with this?? I don't know where to turn or who to see to deal with this situation.This is really stressing me out and I need help now, please help me.All help is appreciated, Ruth
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 Well, it seems to me that your husband is doing everything he can to get promotion. You could suggest he try wearing stockings and suspenders to work? If that doesn't work he should change his job. Has he considered going into politics ? ? ?
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (18 November 2007):
 Ok I was going to ignore this, thinking I couldnt help, but it kept nagging at me. I couldnt undersand why so I actually phoned my mum to ask her some advice. she reminded me of a cousin of hers whom I did know about but it was a looong time ago.
He wa a totally normal guy, nothing out of the ordinary about him at all, in fact he was rather nice. then he turned 24 and suddenly he started acting strange, he would jump up on a park bench and start singing random fragments of song, or tey to jump in front of busses to prove he could beat them. It got really bad then he took to drink and sitting ina chair shouting random phases. He was living with a girlfriend at the time who got to the point of alking out. Fortunatly she realised something wasnt right. She hauled him down the doctors and doc sent him for a tun of test. It was a very difficult time as he fought her all the way. but they found out he had a tumor on the left side of his brain, it was making him hallucinate and regress into childhood. he had no idea he was doing most of it.
Fortuantly the surgeons were able to compleately remove it, and though it took him about a year to recover, he was back to his old self.
So to conclude. Is this all totally out of the blue for him? has he ever acted this odly before? If not then I suggest you haul him down the doctors pronto. you could be saving his life as well as your own sanity.
Good luck and I look forward to your follow up.
Take care hun xxxx
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reader, karrie123  +, writes (18 November 2007):
possibly your husband is in psychosis, seek medical help from mental health just to be sure and for some support. Hang in sweetie there is help available. Even ring a mental health line and explain the situation. It may be something else. Don't put it off....please seek some help ASAP
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): Well,Ruth. To be quite blunt your Husband has gone off the deep-end. He needs help, but then he would be the last one to agree with that,I'm sure. And as long as he see what he is doing as perfectly normal, there isn't much you can do to help him. Me,If I had a place to go for awhile, I sure as Hell wouldn't be hangging around your house. His his sickness will just become more and more pronounced with time. And there is also a possibility that you could be in danger staying in your own home. He's in control of his own sickness at this time,and as long as he shuts out those who want to help him, he'll also shut you out of his life. Yes, He needs help, but You need to check on the Social-Services in your area for your own protection and your husbands welbeing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): I understand your shame but you don't have to be ashamed to write exactly what happened here because you are posting anonymously. I'm curious about what happened exactly. We read worst things than that everyday here seriously. I think there's a lot of information left out on your question. I mean, he has changed but he has to be a functional person at some level. The kind of job he has and the kind of personality he had before this started are crucial to draw conclusions here. Does he wear a tie to work or jeans? Is he the clown type of personality or was he a normal guy before this happened. It's weird how he does all these things and he doesn't get fired? I'm starting to think this question can't be serious. I mean if he has changed so much at his job he must have changed with you and around the house too. What kind of relationship you have with that man that you can't talk to him about something so important as his job? What kind of man he is he doesn't care his boss calls his wife to criticize his performance at work and he doesn't give a damn. I mean did he just won the lottery to act as if he will never need this job or any other job in his life? I doubt he is an alcoholic because alcoholic beverages are natural depressives and he seems have become the opposite. Are you sure he wasn't taking any medication before this change? He could be on drugs. If he doesn't respect you and you don't know him well so you could draw some conclusions about what could possibly be happening to him I doubt someone else could help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): hi there i ain't really good at this stuff but i could give a couple of pointers. from what you've said i beleive that your husband maybe becoming an alcoholic
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