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writes:Me and this guy met at work aboyt 7/8 months ago. We got to know eachother, then one night about a 1 1/2 months ago we made out. we have hung out a few times. He recetnly moved about 2.5 hours away. Once he was settled he invited me up and I went everything went great. We talked about our past hook ups, relationships. Our coworkers have asked both of us sepertly about whats going on, I told him I just play dumb and avoid the topic. ( I should have said I only do it because what else would I say other then we made out ) Either way, things went better then I could have expected. How can I turn this into a relationship or should I wait for him to make the move?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (11 December 2010):
 I think there is a spark between the two of you. In this instance you don't have to wait for him to call, if you have not yet phoned him yet to tell him how much you enjoyed the visit.
If it came to pass that you did enter into an ingoing relationship would you move to where he is living?
Could you get a job as good as or better than your current job, in the place where he lives now? That is, if you do become closer and form a relationship.
Because you are setting yourself up for more difficulty if you enter a LongDistanceRelationship. So much more pressure on the 2 parties to sustain a LDR
It is a very good sign that he asked you to see his new place. A phone to him, now you are back from visiting him, to tell him how much you enjoyed being with him and seeing him during the visit is a courtesy call. Yet such a courtesy call will open the door for him to tell you if he feels the same Or allow him to suggest another opportunity to see you. There is some interest from him. He seems happy that you are being discreet about the possible relationship.
In house Work relationships are not usually a good idea, but the fact he is no longer in the place where you work means it may have more chance of success. But off setting that advantage is the disadvantage of the physical distance between where he lives and where you live. If the opportunity presents itself, perhaps you could discuss these issues with him?
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