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writes:I'm a separated female, went on a few dates over 5 months with a man that is separated. Slept with him 2nd date. How to tell if interested or if just interested in friends with benefits?
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reader, t-wett +, writes (20 April 2009):
Very simple. ASK HIM!!! Guys will tell you what they want...whether it's just sex or something more and possibly a relationship. If he's being contradictory in his answers, beware of the smoke and mirror tricks!! It's a classic case of the "well, I do like you and I think we should keep seeing each other and see where things go from there" trap. If that's the case, he's just trying to string you along as long as he can while he's still getting sex from you. If that's the case, dump him! Or if you're fine with him not comitting and he's a good lay, make sure you wear protection because I'm sure he's rotating women and doing the same thing with a couple other chicks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): i'm in a FWB relationship so here's the difference i've noticed between being an gf or an fwb:if the only time you spend together is in the sack and hanging out but not going on real dates, then you are probably an fwb. sometimes fwb do things like go out to dinner or to a party, but it should feel like you are going out with a friend. if he doesn't call very often or doesn't check up on you with no real reason to talk to you, then he's probably an fwb.and if he never talks about relationship topics or brings up how he feels about you, then you are probably an fwb.let me tell you, as a female, it is difficult to be in this type of setup without developing feelings. i wasn't wild about the guy when we were actually dating, but when we just became fwb's, then i started to fall for him but i know it's one sided. sure, we have fun when we see each, he's sweet and thoughtful, but outside of those times we meet up it's like i don't really exist.i would ask this guy what he's looking for, if he's interested in a relationship and such. he'll probably tell you if he wants to keep it casual or if he wants something more serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): Honestly that's one of those things that needs to be very clear with both people. I could tell you something like, make him wait for more sex and see if he sticks around, but this is one of those subjects that just needs to be discussed.
Tell him that you want to be on the same page of the relationship and that he needs to honest and upfront about his intentions and feelings.
Now, i've never had a FWB or any of this confusion so i'm very sorry if i didn't help, but using my best judgement, this is what i came up with.
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