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writes: UNHAPPY IN SO CAL:~(I have been married for 4 months now and I think that there is somthing wrong with me because I just hate having sex with my husband. I have never been attracted to him but I thought I would still want to make love to/with him because he is a wonderful person. I think maybe we should have just stayed friends. I feel so bad about this. Oh God, what am I going to do. I just cant see myself living like this for the rest of my life:( Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, Jia +, writes (20 April 2009):
Hmmm. I don't mean to be brash, but if you weren't attracted to him in the first place, then why did you marry him? I mean, his wonderfulness can only go so far. If there was no attraction you shouldn't have married him, you should have broken up with him after you realised you weren't attracted to him. Anyways, the past is the past, now you should move forward, I'm not saying it will be easy, but it's best you let him know now and see what you guys will do with it, rather than telling him five years from now that he just doesn't turn you on when you have already lost five years where you could've found someone who you're attracted to.
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