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30-35,
anonymous
writes:this is realy complicated so i am going to try my best to explain.... i live in a pub and get along realy well with a certain customer who is nine years older than me, about two month ago we were talking over the computer and he told me that he likes me and i told him i like him to, i have liked him for ages, we then swapped numbers and have been getting closer ever since but all this is in private... this is because he slept with my mams mate a while ago and my mam doesnt want me to get with him because of it, i dont see nothing wrong in it as it was in the past, i have started falling for this lad realy badly to the extent i think i am in love with him and i cant keep quiet no more but the problem is that his family wont agree with it because of the age and my mam wont be happy, i want more out of it than just txts, i know he does also, he just dernt say anything,i dont know how to talk to him about how i am feeling as we made it clear a few weeks ago that our txt relationship wasnt going to come out! thats the best way to explain. please help me i think i love him!
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (13 October 2007):
 First of all, you don't love him. so many young people get love and lust mixed up, love is when you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, and at 16/17, believe me you do not know what you want.
he sounds like the kind of guy who puts it about, if he's slept with your mums mate, she obviously has reasons to doubt him and she is only looking out for you.
whether you like it or not, he is more than likely only after one thing and don't give a shit about you.
learn to cope with it, because most men treat you like crap until you find the one who loves you for you.
take care.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (13 October 2007):
You have a right to want more than a text relationship. Seriously, what good will that do either of you? You must realize that you are your own person and he is his own person and should not have family politics ruling a relationship.
Here is the thing though. Are you sure the reasons that your families don't like this is because of the reasons they give? You are only 16-17 and he is 25-26. It might not be the gap, but the fact that you are still so young, high school age, when he should be done with college. I realize that where you are, this is legally okay, but in America it is frowned upon and some people in your country probably feel the same way. Especially the adults.
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