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*ovesickguy
writes:Hello.Here is the situation, and it's driving me completely up the wall.I fell in love with a girl who is 15 years younger then me. She's 19, i'm 34.Now, i'm not good with ladies at all. So far I never had any relationship. Mainly because I was shy and well. The few ladies that I did think loved me, well they just kept me in reserve until another guy came along.We both go to the same martial arts school. And at some point I fell in love with her.After some time of soul-searching I decided to ask her out. And she accepted. We had a wonderful time, we talked alot and she was very open about herself. We went to another few outings, a movie and a market and we also ended up talking alot. Especially her past troubles. But I never got the feeling that there was a romantic click. Just a good deep friendship. But maybe i'm just being too cautious there and letting her (and my) past relations get in the way.She's been bullied at school alot, and she has a self-confidence problem. Then she went on vacation to visit her old friends. She's from another country.And here my worries start. I never told her I loved her. Hinted at it alot. And I already resolved that I will tell her I have feelings for her when I get to see her alone again.I have her on my facebook, and I occasionally chat with her. (I don't want to come of as needy) and I did sent her 2 emails during the 3 weeks she's been gone.She replied to none of my emails. And when I chat with her on facebook it's always very short answers. Moreover, I noticed that when I post something on her wall she hardly ever 'like' it, but things her friends post do get likes.Am I over analyzing her behaviour?It will be another 8 days before she gets back in the country, and even then maybe some days before I see her again. And maybe even longer to be together again.Right now, i'm completely at a loss on what to do.I don't want to tell her on FB that I love her, and I don't want to do that in an e-mail. Both options seem too cold to properly do that.Any advice is appreciated.
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reader, lovesickguy +, writes (14 September 2012):
lovesickguy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell. I've been friendzoned before I got the chance to tell her I love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): Sounds like she's playing hard to get or just sees you as a friend don't tell her anything wait and see when she comes back I know it's hard but don't make any contact with her see if she comes to you first good luck
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