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*aiderettechica
writes:I've been on 5 dates with this guy recently. He really likes me and I really like him, but he said from the beginning he wants to take baby steps and I'm fine with that. I really would like to take our dating to the next the next serious relationship level but I don't know how to do that without coming off pushy or desperate. I also don't want to lose a chance with him. He said he's not dating anyone else. I'm not possessive or needy and he said he likes that about me. I am willing to be patient but how long does dating usually take to become serious? Reply to this Question
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reader, zxcsdiana  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 5 Dates is nothing.. Unless you've been dating for a month or two! He's still getting to know you, and has made it obvious that he likes you. Appreciate the time you spend with him, if you feel like he is worth the wait. Ask him after the 10th date, and if he's still into you then you should ask him if he wants whatever you have, to go anywhere. I think you should wait a little longer! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2012): Did you have sex with him? If so, I doubt it will go to the next level. If not, keep taking things slow, date others, and keep your legs closed. Wait until you get an exclusive agreement to not see others and then you'll know your dating relationship is taking a more serious turn.
To me it sounds like you've already given away the goods and he's keeping you around as an option until he meets someone he really wants to be with. You are already in the pursuer role, which is not a good sign.
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