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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:So I've had this teacher since my freshman year, we hit it off almost instantly and became pretty close. (not in a weird or inappropriate way, just a teacher-student friendliness) We talk every school day, and we get on so well. We have a similar sense of humor and we're both always laughing, and she's always there to help with any problems I might have- class related or not. And recently she's sort of opened up to me more, just talking about past relationships and her family and such. During freshman year still- I realized that I love her, or I think I love her. And ever since then I can't get her off my mind- my friends say it's infatuation but I don't know, can I be infatuated for 2+ years? I don't know if she'd ever be interested in me- or if she is now, and I know that it's frowned upon, neither I nor her have tried anything, and I wouldn't. How do I stop loving her like I do and remain friendly? Because she's so important to me, I don't want to just stop being her student friend, but how do I take my mind off her? And after I graduate, then could I pursue a relationship or is that "wrong" still? Thanks, agony aunts!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 November 2014):
 You have to look at this feeling for what it is. As we grow up we need guidance from role models. Sometimes we romanticize these relationships. After you graduate and dive in the real world you might realize your feelings for her would not be the same. You would look for someone your equal. Yes infatuation can last 2 years but I do hope people find what they want in real life and stop living inside their heads. You didn't say you are lesbian or bi curious, so to take your mind off her you need to replace your object of affections to someone else. I would say someone your age would be more suitable to give you the kind of romance you seek. Some people like the mentor-protege relationship but you need to meet more people to find out what works for you best.
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