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writes:How to stop crying over a guy?Here a brief description of my problem. For two years I've been chatting with one guy over the Internet. First half a year I was practically obsessed with him. The thing is that he's from USA, and I'm from France. I woke up earlier in order to still catch him online, and vice versa. Last month he came to Paris. He's got some close friends over here, so he decided to visit them. Obviously, we planned to finally meet each other.I gotta admit, we instantly hit it off. Every evening we went out, I was coming back home in the morning and still had to go to work. But whatever. I couldn't miss a single moment not seeing him.I fell in love. I think he had some feeling for me as well, I could see that in his eyes...And the moment we were saying goodbye was one of the hardest moment i ever had in my entire life.We do still keep in touch. Every day. Wherever I go, I chat with him over my cell phone. He does the same.But this distance is killing me. My heard really hurts. At first, I thought it was just a crush. But it's been month already since he left, and I can't get over him. I can't stop crying every time he wishes me 'goodnight sweetheart'. I don't know how to act. I don't really show my feelings, don't want to scare him off. But at the same time, I want him to know that there's someone who loves him, no matter this distance... Any advices, guys? Should I suffer silently? Wait till I get out of this misery or what? (((
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 OUCH... LDRS suck. they do.
I'm in one. I'd DIE in your situation. I'm in an LDR that is ONLY a 2 hour car ride away
You should let him know how you feel and find out if he returns the feelings...
I agree totally with adamantine that www.lovingfromadistance.com is an awesome site.
I also agree that there are some things that are mandatory for making an LDR work
1. trust
2. honesty
3. communication
4. regularly scheduled meetings face to face
5. an END date for the LDR... SOMEONE has to move.
the only thing making me drive up the interstate pretty much EVERY WEEKEND is knowing that eventually (no later than June 2012) we will be together full time.
best of luck to you!
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reader, little_secret +, writes (16 May 2011):
Thank you girls! You are both right!
I'll have to work up the courage and tell him how I feel.
So scared...but at least I'll know how to deal with the whole thing in the future !
Thank you so much^
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reader, AkiJ  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Hey!
Looks like you are really in love! :)
Okay..sometimes, girls have to take the first step! And by first step, I don't mean propose him or something, but you need to tell him how feel! That is the only way you can feel better!
Send him an e-mail, pouring your heart out! Tell him you have fallen in love with them and want to take this to a serious level! If he feels the same for you, then according to me distance doesn't matter! Yes, long distance relationships are difficult to manage, especially when it involves such a large distance, however, as they say, true love truimphs all!
And in case, which I hope not, he doesn't feel for you that way, then it will be better to move on and just be friends...It just means there is someone even better for you out there! :)
Good luck! :)
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Long distance relationship questions.. I feel like I've been answering a lot of these lately, maybe because I'm in one myself.
Have you guys talked about the future at all? Usually with long distance relationships, one party will need to make the permanent move to close the gap between you.
I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel about him, and that you have deep feelings for him. Just have a heart to heart conversation about it so that you know where you both stand. Then go from there.
With these things, you just need to take it day by day, as much as you miss him and it sucks. You can either stick it out in the hope that you'll end up together, or cut contact.
Best of luck, and if you need more advice, feel free to message me. There is also a website called lovingfromadistance.com. You can visit the forum there and speak to lots of different people from all over the world in the same situation as you.
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